Coaching practices for How to Deal with Colleague Making Fun of My Decisions
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- I come across as so buttoned-up and serious that people stay a little stiff around me, and I want to lighten it by laughing at myself
- I think my boss is about to make the wrong call and I’m biting my tongue to keep the peace, then quietly stewing about it after
- Someone just came to me with a mistake and I felt my face tighten before I said a word
- I keep taking my boss’s frustrating decisions personally, like they’re just choosing to make my life harder
- Someone takes a dig at me and I instantly want to either defend myself or fire back, and either way I’ve handed them exactly the reaction they were fishing for and the jabs just keep coming.
Practices that may help
- Use self-deprecating humor — selectively
Laughing at yourself in a low-stakes moment signals security and reduces social distance.
The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical - Disagree with your manager constructively
State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Respond non-punitively to mistakes
When someone brings you a problem or mistake, make your first move curiosity, not blame.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Understand the constraints your manager operates under
Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Fogging
Calmly agree with any grain of truth in a criticism without caving or counterattacking.
Assertiveness Training, Made Practical - Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Appoint an explicit devil’s advocate role
Give one person the formal job of arguing against the plan — making dissent structural, not personal.
Red Teaming: Stress-Testing Plans Before They Fail - Learn to spot bikeshedding patterns in real time
Recognize when a discussion has become detailed, confident, and energetic about a low-stakes item.
Parkinson’s Law of Triviality: Stop Bikeshedding - Give voice to those with uncomfortable perspectives
Actively surface and protect the dissenting or marginal voices the system wants to silence.
Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
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