Coaching practices for How to Fix a Weird Relationship at Work

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• Things with my manager have gone cold and transactional, and we’re both just avoiding it and quietly resenting each other
• Things have gone cool and stiff with someone and we’re both just frozen, neither willing to make the first move or have the awkward talk
• I honestly can’t tell where I stand with my boss
• I’ve started treating every fight we have as proof that something’s broken between us, and because we never really circle back to mend them afterward, each unfinished one chips away at all the good we’ve built
• We dive straight into hashing out the problem while we’re both still seeing each other as the enemy, nervous systems on fire

Practices that may help

1. Repair a damaged leader-follower relationship deliberately
   Take active steps to reset a deteriorated relationship, rather than allowing avoidance to compound the damage.
   Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
2. Use a small ask to repair a strained relationship
   In a cool or conflicted relationship, asking for a small favor can reset the dynamic more effectively than doing one.
   The Ben Franklin Effect, Made Practical
3. Assess the current quality of your leader-member relationship
   Honestly diagnose where you stand in the relationship before trying to improve it.
   Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
4. Treat conflict as maintenance, not maintenance failure
   Repair well and quickly — because how you end conflict matters more than how you conduct it.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
5. Reconnect emotionally before solving the issue
   Restore the bond first; the problem is far easier to discuss from connection than from threat.
   Rupture and Repair
6. Adapt to your manager’s communication style
   Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
7. Transform the relationship, not just the issue
   Use each conflict as an opportunity to raise the quality of the relationship itself.
   The Third Alternative, Made Practical
8. Send proactive, brief status updates
   Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
9. Make extra deposits during difficult life periods
   External stress drains PSO — consciously increase positive interactions when life is hard.
   Positive Sentiment Override: How to Build the Lens That Protects Relationships
10. Repairing rifts before they harden
    Reach out to mend strained or drifted relationships rather than letting them calcify.
    The Good Life: Lessons from the Harvard Study

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