Coaching practices for How to Get Over Breakup Anxiety

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  • Even once the worst of it passes, I can’t get back into the room
  • I keep asking the people around me "are you sure it’s fine?" over and over
  • I’ve got all these little rules that keep me okay
  • I can get through the scary thing now, but only with my little crutches
  • When I make myself face the scary scenario I end up still wound up and rattled afterward, and then I dread doing it again

Practices that may help

  1. Engage with the present moment
    Once the edge comes off, redirect attention fully into an activity or your surroundings.
    The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
  2. Fade reassurance-seeking
    Gradually reduce how often you seek reassurance from others that the feared thing won't happen.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  3. Drop the safety behaviors
    Let go of the small avoidances and crutches you use to feel "safe" from anxiety.
    The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
  4. Eliminate safety behaviors
    Identify and drop the subtle actions that reduce anxiety but prevent learning you don’t need them.
    Exposure Therapy: Facing Fears to Shrink Them
  5. Combine worry exposure with relaxation skill
    After the exposure period, apply a relaxation practice to close each session with a deactivation phase.
    Worry Exposure, Made Practical
  6. Run toward the feeling
    Actively invite more of the anxiety rather than waiting nervously for it to pass.
    The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
  7. Use graduated social exposure
    Start with low-stakes social interactions and systematically increase difficulty.
    Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework
  8. Strengthen the observing self
    Notice that there is a "you" watching your thoughts — that witness is stable even when thoughts are not.
    Defusion from Anxious Thoughts
  9. Gradually drop safety behaviors
    Safety behaviors (a phone, a companion, a pill) reduce distress in the moment but prevent the learning that exposure is meant to produce.
    The Fear Ladder: Graded Exposure Made Practical
  10. Map best case, worst case, and most likely case
    Write out all three scenarios to reanchor your thinking in the probable, not just the feared.
    Decatastrophizing, Made Practical

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