Coaching practices for How to Get Over Someone You Love Deeply and See Everyday

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• My partner has become so much a part of the furniture of my life that I barely register them anymore, and I catch myself being short or distracted
• I love the people closest to me but I move through whole days barely seeing them, like they’ve faded into the background
• I look at my partner and barely see them anymore
• I catch myself treating the people and things I love like they’ll always just be there, and I clutch and take them for granted in the same breath
• I’m half-listening to the people I love most because they’re always around

Practices that may help

1. Imagine the absence of a key relationship
   Vividly imagine your life without a person you love — specifically, in detail, what would be missing.
   Negative Visualization for Gratitude: The Stoic Path to Appreciation
2. Imagine the absence of someone you love
   Briefly picture life without a person you love, then return to their actual presence.
   Negative Visualization, the Stoic Practice
3. The erotic gaze: seeing your partner freshly
   Deliberately practice seeing your partner as a stranger might — with curiosity, not familiarity.
   Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships
4. Contemplation of impermanence
   Hold steadily that everything you have — including the people you love — is on loan and temporary.
   Premeditatio Malorum, in Depth
5. The last conversation
   Enter a conversation with someone you love as if it might be the last one you have with them.
   The Last Time Meditation
6. Task 4: Find an enduring connection with the deceased
   Relocate the relationship from physical presence to an internal, meaningful connection.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
7. Review the crowd of history
   Call to mind the powerful, famous, and worried people of the past — and note they are all gone.
   The View from Above
8. Map your partner's current inner world
   Know your partner's present worries, stresses, and joys -- not just who they were when you met.
   Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World
9. Develop an internalised representation of the person
   Build a rich inner sense of who the person was that you carry and consult in daily life.
   Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
10. Treating grief as a form of gratitude
    When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
    Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things

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