Coaching practices for How to Give Direct Feedback
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- I deliver my feedback as a finished verdict and then the other person just sits there closed off
- I tell someone what went wrong but never say what I actually want instead, so they walk away knowing they messed up with no idea what "right" looks like
- Feedback in my one-on-ones only ever flows one way
- I hint and soften and hope they pick up on what I mean, so the real message never quite lands
- When I just hand someone my assessment they go passive and defensive, like I’m doing something to them
Practices that may help
- Invite a response after delivering SBI
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Add a forward-looking request to SBI
Pair the impact statement with a specific, doable request for next time.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Make feedback flow in both directions
Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical - Challenge directly
Say the hard thing clearly, soon, and to the person’s face.
Radical Candor, Made Practical - Ask what the person already knows before offering your assessment
Ask the person to evaluate their own performance before giving yours.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
The Johari Window - Give feedback in the moment, not stockpiled for reviews
Feedback accumulated for a periodic review arrives late and in bulk — neither helps.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Describe behavior, not character
Say what the person did — actions, words — not what that says about who they are.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
The SBI model (Situation–Behavior–Impact), developed by the Center for Creative Leadership, structures feedback by anchoring it to an observable moment, describing the behavior seen rather than inferring motive, and naming the actual impact. This reduces defensiveness and attribution errors; the model is established clinical practice in leadership development, though direct RCT comparisons to other feedback approaches are limited.
Related concerns
- Behavior Not Character Feedback
Say what the person did — actions, words — not what that says about who they are.
Describe behavior, not character
- How To Give Feedback
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
Invite a response after delivering SBI
- How To Give Feedback Without Hierarchy
Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.
Make feedback flow in both directions
- How To Give Feedback Without Telling
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
- When To Give Feedback
Feedback accumulated for a periodic review arrives late and in bulk — neither helps.
Give feedback in the moment, not stockpiled for reviews
- Behavior Vs Person Feedback
Feedback loops are the mechanism by which information about the gap between current and desired performance reaches the actor and drives adjustment. Cybernetics established the theoretical foundation; decades of applied research confirm that self-monitoring and feedback are among the most robust behavior-change techniques — particularly for health behaviors. The key design questions are feedback frequency, the right metric, and the gap between signal and response.
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