Coaching practices for How to Give Feedback That Motivates

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• I tell someone what went wrong but never say what I actually want instead, so they walk away knowing they messed up with no idea what "right" looks like
• When someone does something genuinely great I just toss off a "nice work" and move on, and it barely registers
• No matter how carefully I word it, my feedback seems to land as me sitting in judgment over them from above
• I deliver my feedback as a finished verdict and then the other person just sits there closed off
• I tell people what they did wrong but they don’t see why it actually matters, so nothing changes

Practices that may help

1. Add a forward-looking request to SBI
   Pair the impact statement with a specific, doable request for next time.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
2. Use SBI for positive feedback, not just correction
   Name the situation, behavior, and impact when someone does something right.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
3. Establish shared purpose before delivering critique
   Frame critique as help toward a shared goal, not an evaluation from above.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
4. Invite a response after delivering SBI
   Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
5. Name the actual impact on you or the team
   Say what effect the behavior had — on you, on others, on the work.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
6. Frame rewards as information, not control
   "Your solution was creative" supports motivation; "here’s your gold star for complying" undermines it.
   Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation: What the Research Actually Shows
7. Close feedback by checking understanding, not agreement
   Ask "What did you take from that?" rather than "Do you agree?"
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
8. Give feedforward as specific, actionable ideas — not generic encouragement
   When giving feedforward, offer two concrete behavioral ideas, not praise or abstract advice.
   Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior
9. Ask what the person already knows before offering your assessment
   Ask the person to evaluate their own performance before giving yours.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
10. Make feedback specific and behavioral, not evaluative
    Describe what you observed, not what it says about the person.
    The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead

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