Coaching practices for How to Handle Resistance Coaching
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- The people I coach leave fired up with a plan, but the first ordinary snag throws them and the whole thing quietly dies
- I keep handing people the answer outright and they just bounce off it, but I’ve noticed when they land on the very same idea by themselves they actually run with it
- Someone’s clearly digging their heels in, and every time I argue back with why they’re wrong it only makes them push harder
- When I tell my coach a session "felt hard" they can’t tell if it was the weight or just me being tired, and we keep talking past each other
- The second they push back I feel myself bracing to argue, and we end up locked in a tug-of-war where the harder I pull, the harder they pull the other way
Practices that may help
- Obstacle anticipation before close
Before ending, ask "what could get in the way?" and pre-plan the response.
The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical - Ask reflective questions instead of giving answers
Questions that prompt self-examination invite the person in; directives keep them out.
Psychological Reactance: Working With the Push-Back Reflex - Name the resistance out loud
Acknowledging push-back diffuses it; arguing with it amplifies it.
Psychological Reactance: Working With the Push-Back Reflex - Use RPE as a communication language with coaches and training partners
A shared RPE vocabulary turns subjective experience into objective programming data that a coach can act on.
The RPE Scale - Roll with resistance instead of fighting it
When you meet a push-back, soften and reflect rather than argue.
Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical - Replace commands with genuine choices
Frame requests as options rather than obligations to neutralize the threat to freedom.
Psychological Reactance: Working With the Push-Back Reflex - Training discomfort tolerance
Choosing hard sets builds the skill of staying with discomfort by choice.
Strength Training for Confidence - Psychological Reactance: Working With the Push-Back Reflex
Psychological reactance, introduced by Jack Brehm in 1966, is the motivational state aroused when a person perceives that a free behavior is being threatened or eliminated. The predictable result is an urge to restore the freedom — often by doing the forbidden thing or rejecting the advice. The research base is solid for the core phenomenon; applications to self-motivation and coaching draw on that foundation with moderate practical support. - Build a concrete Will commitment
Convert the chosen option into a specific next action with a date, and ask "what will you do?" not "what will you try?"
The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical - Close the GROW loop with session review
At the start of the next session, review what was committed and what actually happened before setting a new goal.
The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
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- Psychological Reactance Working With The Push Back Reflex During Conflict
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- Psychological Reactance Working With The Push Back Reflex For My Teenager
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- Psychological Reactance Working With The Push Back Reflex When Starting Out
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- Work With Resistance
Steven Pressfield’s "Resistance" is his name for the internal force that opposes any meaningful creative or entrepreneurial act. His core practices — turning pro, showing up daily, and treating creative work as a profession rather than an inspiration-dependent activity — are grounded in practitioner wisdom from a working novelist. They align with self-regulation and deliberate practice research but are not derived from formal studies.
- How To Notice Reactance Yourself
Psychological reactance, introduced by Jack Brehm in 1966, is the motivational state aroused when a person perceives that a free behavior is being threatened or eliminated. The predictable result is an urge to restore the freedom — often by doing the forbidden thing or rejecting the advice. The research base is solid for the core phenomenon; applications to self-motivation and coaching draw on that foundation with moderate practical support.
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