Coaching practices for How to Help an Elderly Paranoid Parent

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  • I keep asking the people around me "are you sure it’s fine?" over and over
  • I can only do certain things if a particular person comes with me
  • My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
  • I’ve got all these little things I do to get through anxious moments
  • I can only handle the scary situation if I’ve got my little crutch

Practices that may help

  1. Fade reassurance-seeking
    Gradually reduce how often you seek reassurance from others that the feared thing won't happen.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  2. Fade reliance on a support person
    Gradually enter feared situations with decreasing support from a person who has been a source of safety.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  3. Send proactive, brief status updates
    Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  4. Map your safety-behavior inventory
    List every action you take to prevent feared outcomes in anxiety-provoking situations.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  5. Gradually drop safety behaviors
    Safety behaviors (a phone, a companion, a pill) reduce distress in the moment but prevent the learning that exposure is meant to produce.
    The Fear Ladder: Graded Exposure Made Practical
  6. Orienting to your surroundings
    Slowly turn your head and let your eyes land on the room, signaling that the present is safe.
    Grounding Techniques for Acute Distress
  7. Run exposures without safety behaviors
    Do induction exercises while deliberately leaving out the coping props you normally rely on.
    Interoceptive Exposure for Panic
  8. Engage with the present moment
    Once the edge comes off, redirect attention fully into an activity or your surroundings.
    The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
  9. Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
    Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
    Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
  10. Drop the safety behaviors
    Let go of the small avoidances and crutches you use to feel "safe" from anxiety.
    The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical

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