Coaching practices for How to Keep the Question Asking Nature of Your Kid
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- When I ask my kid about their day I get one-word answers, and I realize I only ever ask about homework and chores
- My kid has started hiding mistakes and bracing like they’re in trouble before I’ve even said anything, and I think it’s because my first reaction to a spill or a broken thing is always the accusation
- My child reacts to everything on pure impulse and never seems to stop and think how the other kid feels, and I want to actually build that thinking-and-considering muscle during our good calm moments, not just keep firefighting once they’ve already lost it.
- I only ever speak up to my kid when something’s wrong
- I praise my kid constantly
Practices that may help
- Talk with your child about their day and interests
Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Engage the upstairs brain through curiosity and play
Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Sportscast what you see rather than directing
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
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Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
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Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Sportscast what you see rather than directing
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