Coaching practices for How to Politely Ask a Coworker to Google it

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  • I’ve got the conversation booked but I’m staring at a blank page of questions, worried I’ll waste their time asking things I could’ve Googled
  • I want to message someone in a field I’m curious about, but I freeze on what to even say
  • The conversation goes great and then it just...
  • I never actually come out and say what I want
  • There’s something I really need to ask someone for, and when I just ask it cold it lands as a big imposition and gets a no

Practices that may help

  1. Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to
    Ask about the unwritten realities of the role — the things no job posting reveals.
    Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
  2. Request the conversation the right way
    A short, specific, no-pressure request gets far more responses than a vague networking ask.
    Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
  3. Close every informational interview with one forward step
    End by asking: "Is there someone else you think I should talk to?"
    Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
  4. Assert your request or refusal directly and specifically
    Ask for exactly what you want or say no — without hedging, hinting, or burying the request.
    DEAR MAN: DBT’s Skill for Asking for What You Want Effectively
  5. Use the door-in-the-face technique to make the real ask seem small
    Make a large, reasonable request first; after it is declined, your actual (smaller) ask feels like a concession.
    The Contrast Principle, Made Practical
  6. Turn cold calls into warm calls
    Research the person and find a genuine point of connection before any outreach.
    Never Eat Alone: Building a Real Network
  7. Ask for their expertise or opinion — not just their help
    Requesting someone’s expert opinion generates more liking than requesting their labor.
    The Ben Franklin Effect, Made Practical
  8. Give genuine value before you make a request
    Lead with something useful — help, insight, attention — before any ask.
    The Rule of Reciprocity, Made Practical
  9. Actively seek feedback on your blind spots
    Ask specifically for what others see that you might not — with enough specificity to get honest answers.
    The Johari Window
  10. Ask open-ended map-building questions
    Replace generic check-ins with questions that open a window into your partner's inner life.
    Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World

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