Coaching practices for How to Reduce Self Serving Bias

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  • I’m about to lock in a judgment and I’m only seeing the evidence that backs it
  • When I just hand someone my assessment they go passive and defensive, like I’m doing something to them
  • When I replay this in my own head I always land on the same tidy story, and some part of me suspects I’m protecting myself
  • Mid-argument I can feel myself stop weighing the facts and start scrambling for comebacks
  • I bend over backwards to be fair to everyone else and then quietly leave myself out of the equation entirely

Practices that may help

  1. Confirmation Bias: Seeing What You Expect to See
    Confirmation bias is the tendency to seek, notice, and remember information that confirms existing beliefs, while ignoring or discounting contradictory evidence. It is among the most robustly documented cognitive biases. Debiasing is difficult and partial — knowing about it helps less than most people assume — but structured practices (actively seeking disconfirming evidence, pre-mortems, and adversarial collaboration) reliably reduce its impact.
  2. Consider the opposite before finalizing a judgment
    Deliberately generate the case for the conclusion you are not reaching.
    Motivated Reasoning
  3. Ask what the person already knows before offering your assessment
    Ask the person to evaluate their own performance before giving yours.
    The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
  4. Include a trusted other in high-stakes AARs
    Self-conducted AARs have blind spots; a peer or coach who was not inside the event sees the causal story differently.
    After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning
  5. Notice when you are in soldier mode
    Catch the moment your brain shifts from truth-seeking to self-defending.
    The Scout Mindset
  6. Be Fair: include yourself in the fairness you extend to others
    Apply the same standards of fairness to yourself that you would to someone you respect.
    FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships
  7. Recognize when contrast is being used on you
    Awareness of the contrast principle is the antidote — evaluate options against an independent standard, not the presented sequence.
    The Contrast Principle, Made Practical
  8. Audit and reduce your self-orientation
    Self-orientation is the denominator: a small increase in it wipes out gains in all three numerator variables.
    The Trust Equation, Made Practical
  9. Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
    Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
    The Johari Window
  10. Affirm before receiving critical feedback
    Do a brief values reflection before reading a critical evaluation so you can take in the information rather than defend against it.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical

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