Coaching practices for How to Report Unfair Treatment at Work

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • The person across from me is clearly churning with some big feeling
  • I bend over backwards to be fair to everyone else and then quietly leave myself out of the equation entirely
  • I’ve told my people a hundred times they can disagree with me, but they still don’t
  • Someone just came to me with a mistake and I felt my face tighten before I said a word
  • I have to make an ask that I know is going to land as self-serving or unfair, and I’m dreading the moment they think it

Practices that may help

  1. Label the emotion
    Name the feeling you’re sensing — "It sounds like this feels unfair" — to take its heat down.
    Tactical Empathy
  2. Be Fair: include yourself in the fairness you extend to others
    Apply the same standards of fairness to yourself that you would to someone you respect.
    FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships
  3. Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
    Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
    Psychological Safety in Teams
  4. Respond non-punitively to mistakes
    When someone brings you a problem or mistake, make your first move curiosity, not blame.
    Psychological Safety in Teams
  5. Run an accusation audit before difficult asks
    Name the worst things the other person might think about you or your request — before they do.
    Labeling Emotions in Negotiation, Made Practical
  6. Use the time to remove blockers
    Ask what’s in their way and then actually clear it — this is your highest-leverage move.
    Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical
  7. Make feedback specific and behavioral, not evaluative
    Describe what you observed, not what it says about the person.
    The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
  8. Make the harm visible through an impact statement
    The person who caused harm must hear — in detail — what the harm actually did to the person harmed.
    Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr)
  9. Send proactive, brief status updates
    Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  10. Share tasks equitably — and feel equitable about it
    Divide practical responsibilities in a way both partners experience as fair.
    Relationship Maintenance Behaviors

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