Coaching practices for How to Resolve Workplace Conflict

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • We solve the immediate thing but the same ugly dynamic underneath stays exactly the same, so the next disagreement plays out identically
  • Our meetings are all polite nods and "sounds good," and then the real opinions come out afterward in side conversations and quiet eye-rolls
  • Somewhere in this I stopped seeing a problem we both have and started seeing the other person AS the problem
  • We both keep digging into our positions and neither of us is really hearing why the other one cares
  • There’s real friction on my team

Practices that may help

  1. Transform the relationship, not just the issue
    Use each conflict as an opportunity to raise the quality of the relationship itself.
    The Third Alternative, Made Practical
  2. Engage in productive ideological conflict
    Teams that avoid conflict don’t avoid disagreement — they bury it, where it grows into resentment and bad decisions.
    The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, Made Practical
  3. Separate the person from the problem
    Treat the conflict as a problem you face together, not a contest you fight each other.
    The Third Alternative, Made Practical
  4. Collaborating (assertive and cooperative)
    Work the underlying interests until you find a solution that genuinely meets both sides’ needs.
    The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles
  5. Storming: name the conflict without taking sides
    Surface the tension that’s already there rather than managing it away.
    Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development
  6. Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
    Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
    The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles
  7. Disagree with your manager constructively
    State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  8. Adapt your conflict approach to the other person’s DISC style
    Conflict lands differently for each style — match your approach to reduce defensiveness.
    DISC Behavioral Styles
  9. Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
    Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  10. Find mutual purpose
    Establish a shared goal both people care about so the conversation is "us vs the problem".
    Crucial Conversations, Made Practical

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