Coaching practices for How Would a Caregiver Go About Advising Parents Regarding an Issue with Their Child
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- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
- They tell me what kind of parent or partner they want to be, and it’s miles from how they’re actually living
- My kid has started hiding mistakes and bracing like they’re in trouble before I’ve even said anything, and I think it’s because my first reaction to a spill or a broken thing is always the accusation
- I only ever speak up to my kid when something’s wrong
Practices that may help
- Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Develop discrepancy between values and behavior
Gently hold up the gap between what the person wants and what they’re doing.
Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical - Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Focus on solutions, not blame
Ask "What can we do to fix this?" rather than "Why did you do that?" — one opens, the other closes.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Co-regulate by naming your own zone first
A parent who models zone awareness is a more effective co-regulator than one who only monitors the child.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Listen empathically and validate the feeling
Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
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