Coaching practices for I Feel Like My Therapist Isn't Really Helping Me How Can I Tell If Therapy is Working

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’ve got my go-to ways of coping that feel justified and even comforting in the moment, but when I’m honest nothing is actually getting better
• I finally tried something and it only half-worked, and my whole brain went "see, nothing I do ever works"
• I’ll have a breakthrough where I really feel the better version of my story, and then a few days later the old defeating account has quietly taken back over as if it never happened
• I’ve had a couple of rough sessions in a row and I’m starting to believe none of this is working
• All day my attention goes straight to what went wrong

Practices that may help

1. Ask the workability question
   Ask "is what I am doing working?" — not "is it right?" but whether it is moving you toward the life you want.
   Emotional Agility, Made Practical
2. Evaluate the outcome and adjust
   After implementing, honestly assess what worked, what didn’t, and what to do next.
   Problem-Solving Therapy, Made Practical
3. Therapeutic Letters
   A therapist’s written letter to a client between sessions — documenting alternative-story gains before they fade.
   Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Stories That Define You
4. Track SUDs across sessions to see your own progress
   Record distress ratings before and after each session so progress is visible and motivating.
   Counter-Conditioning and Systematic Desensitization
5. The Formula First-Session Task and Between-Session Noticing
   Assign between-session observation tasks that direct attention toward what’s already working.
   Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: Building On What Works
6. Ask "How can I help?" instead of assuming
   Telling people how you’ll help before finding out what kind of help they want is one of the most common management errors.
   The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
7. Scaling Questions
   Use a 0–10 scale to make progress visible, identify what’s working, and define one small next step.
   Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: Building On What Works
8. Coping Questions
   When things seem terrible, ask how the person is managing at all — acknowledging and excavating their resilience.
   Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: Building On What Works
9. Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Stories That Define You
   Narrative therapy, developed by Michael White and David Epston, holds that people live by stories — about who they are, what they’re capable of, and what their experiences mean. By separating the person from the problem ("the person is not the problem; the problem is the problem") and finding "unique outcomes" that contradict a limiting story, therapy opens space to author a more empowering alternative. The evidence base is growing but smaller and less methodologically uniform than CBT.
10. Track performance goals with quantitative metrics
    Measure progress toward performance goals with numbers you collect, not impressions.
    Process Goals, Made Practical

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