Coaching practices for Finding Exceptions in Therapy
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- It feels like this is just how I am
- I’m so convinced I’m "the one who always falls apart" that I can’t see anything else
- All day my attention goes straight to what went wrong
- I’ll have a breakthrough where I really feel the better version of my story, and then a few days later the old defeating account has quietly taken back over as if it never happened
- I know real life needs the occasional exception, but every time I allow one in the moment it somehow becomes "well, today counts too"
Practices that may help
- Exception Finding: When Is the Problem Already Less Severe?
Identify times when the problem was absent or less severe — these are evidence that solutions already exist.
Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: Building On What Works - Finding Unique Outcomes (Exceptions to the Problem Story)
Surface moments when the problem did NOT dominate — these are the seeds of an alternative story.
Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Stories That Define You - The Formula First-Session Task and Between-Session Noticing
Assign between-session observation tasks that direct attention toward what’s already working.
Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: Building On What Works - Therapeutic Letters
A therapist’s written letter to a client between sessions — documenting alternative-story gains before they fade.
Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Stories That Define You - Define exceptions in advance, in writing
A bright line with a pre-written exception stays bright; an improvised exception breaks it.
Bright-Line Rules: When "None" Beats "Some" - The Absent But Implicit: What Problems Reveal About What We Value
Every problem story implies a violated value — surfacing that value reveals the person’s strengths, not just their struggles.
Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Stories That Define You - Examine the evidence for and against the hot thought
List what genuinely supports the thought and what genuinely contradicts it — as if building a case in court.
The Thought Record: CBT’s Core Self-Examination Tool - Track SUDs across sessions to see your own progress
Record distress ratings before and after each session so progress is visible and motivating.
Counter-Conditioning and Systematic Desensitization - Examine the evidence for and against
Systematically list what supports your interpretation and what doesn’t — like a fair-minded lawyer, not a prosecutor.
Check the Facts, Made Practical - Evaluate the outcome and adjust
After implementing, honestly assess what worked, what didn’t, and what to do next.
Problem-Solving Therapy, Made Practical
Related concerns
- I Feel Like My Therapist Isn T Really Helping Me How Can I Tell If Therapy Is Working
Ask "is what I am doing working?" — not "is it right?" but whether it is moving you toward the life you want.
Ask the workability question
- I Like My Therapist But I Feel Like Our Sessions Are Going Nowhere How Can I Tell If Therapy Is Working
After implementing, honestly assess what worked, what didn’t, and what to do next.
Evaluate the outcome and adjust
- What Are Some Ways To Know If Therapy Is Working And When Might Be A Good Time To Stop Therapy
Ask "is what I am doing working?" — not "is it right?" but whether it is moving you toward the life you want.
- Absent But Implicit Narrative Therapy
Every problem story implies a violated value — surfacing that value reveals the person’s strengths, not just their struggles.
The Absent But Implicit: What Problems Reveal About What We Value
- Alternative Narrative Therapy
Narrative therapy, developed by Michael White and David Epston, holds that people live by stories — about who they are, what they’re capable of, and what their experiences mean. By separating the person from the problem ("the person is not the problem; the problem is the problem") and finding "unique outcomes" that contradict a limiting story, therapy opens space to author a more empowering alternative. The evidence base is growing but smaller and less methodologically uniform than CBT.
- Between Session Therapy Tool
A therapist’s written letter to a client between sessions — documenting alternative-story gains before they fade.
Therapeutic Letters
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