Coaching practices for Importance of Play Adults

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Every hour of my life is justified by output now, and the second I do something just for the fun of it a voice says I should be working
• The second I sit down to rest or do something just for fun I feel guilty, like I haven’t earned it
• My kid is full of wild physical energy and I tend to shut down the wrestling and chasing because I’m afraid it’ll spin out of control
• I praise my kid constantly
• Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it

Practices that may help

1. Protect play and creativity as broadening-state generators
   Play is not time away from serious work — it is the state in which the broadened thinking that solves serious problems is most available.
   Broaden-and-Build, Made Practical
2. Cultivate rest and play
   Treat rest and purposeless play as essential to a wholehearted life, not as laziness.
   The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
3. Engage in safe rough-and-tumble play
   Wrestling, chasing, and physical silliness build the regulation capacity that calm activities cannot.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
4. Sportscast what you see rather than directing
   Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
5. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
   Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
6. Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
   Special time is a structured daily or near-daily practice of ten to twenty minutes of fully child-directed, uninterrupted one-on-one play, drawn from Lawrence Cohen's Playful Parenting framework. It fills the child’s attachment "cup," reduces bids for attention through misbehavior, and builds the relationship reserve that makes limits and teaching more effective. Clinical and observational evidence consistently supports child-directed play as a relationship and behavior intervention.
7. Choose low-agenda, high-curiosity destinations
   Pick somewhere that interests your inner child, not somewhere impressive — curiosity, not accomplishment, is the fuel.
   The Artist Date, Made Practical
8. Make bids for shared enjoyment, not just support
   Invite your partner to enjoy something together — playfulness and delight are also bids.
   Turning Toward: The Daily Practice That Builds Relationship Resilience
9. Use play to re-establish connection after conflict or separation
   Playful physical contact after a difficult moment re-welds the relationship faster than discussion.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
10. Engage the upstairs brain through curiosity and play
    Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
    The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)

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