Coaching practices for Inhabiting Opposing Views
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- When two people I respect disagree, I flip to whoever I spoke to last and lose my own footing
- I’m completely certain I’m right and the other person is just being unreasonable
- This disagreement feels total, like we’re on completely opposite sides of everything, and it’s gotten tense
- I’ve settled on my position and I can feel how much I want it to be right, which is exactly why I don’t trust it yet
- Nobody around me will actually push back
Practices that may help
- Hold conflicting perspectives without collapsing
When two people you respect disagree, hold both views as data instead of needing one to be simply right.
Self-Authorship: Moving From the Socialized to the Self-Authored Mind - Perspective rotation: inhabiting another’s view
Construct the strongest, most internally coherent version of a view that opposes your own.
Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift - Map what you actually agree on before diving into the disagreement
Start by explicitly building the shared map before marking where it diverges.
Productive Disagreement, Made Practical - Ask what alternative perspectives would say
Deliberately steelman the strongest objection to your current position before treating it as settled.
Socratic Questioning - Invite an adversarial collaborator
Find someone whose genuine prior is the opposite of yours, and work together on the same evidence.
Confirmation Bias: Seeing What You Expect to See - Find what is genuinely right about positions you disagree with
Most positions you strongly disagree with are right about something important — finding that part is intellectually obligatory.
Steelmanning - Map shared values before mapping the disagreement
In any conflict, identify the values or goals you and the other person genuinely share before cataloguing differences.
Naive Realism: Why Everyone Thinks They See Things as They Are - Practice "Tell me more" — defer rebuttal until genuine understanding
Respond to an opposing view with curiosity before you respond with counter-argument.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical - Deliberately consider the opposite hypothesis
For any belief you are testing, explicitly generate the strongest case for the opposing view.
Confirmation Bias: Seeing What You Expect to See - Find the crux: the one claim that, if changed, would change the conclusion
Locate the single empirical or value disagreement driving the whole dispute.
Productive Disagreement, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Find Truth In Opposing Views
Most positions you strongly disagree with are right about something important — finding that part is intellectually obligatory.
Find what is genuinely right about positions you disagree with
- Seek Opposing Views
Deliberately steelman the strongest objection to your current position before treating it as settled.
Ask what alternative perspectives would say
- When Zhuangzi Perspective Shift Perspective Rotation
Construct the strongest, most internally coherent version of a view that opposes your own.
Perspective rotation: inhabiting another’s view
- Contrarian And Right
For any belief you are testing, explicitly generate the strongest case for the opposing view.
Deliberately consider the opposite hypothesis
- How To Avoid Having Always The Same Debates With A Friend Of Mine
Establish a shared goal both people care about so the conversation is "us vs the problem".
Find mutual purpose
- When Philosophy As A Way Of Life Philosophical Conversation
Establish a shared goal both people care about so the conversation is "us vs the problem".
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