Coaching practices for Internalised Representation Deceased

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• I’m terrified of forgetting them
• I know in my head that they’re gone, but it still hasn’t landed
• I can’t bring myself to get rid of a single thing of theirs
• There’s so much I never got to say to them, and so much happening now I wish I could tell them
• The person is still here but not really here anymore, and there’s no clear moment of loss to grieve

Practices that may help

1. Develop an internalised representation of the person
   Build a rich inner sense of who the person was that you carry and consult in daily life.
   Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
2. Task 1: Accept the full reality of the loss
   Move from intellectual acknowledgement to full emotional acceptance that the person is gone.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
3. Use symbolic objects as tangible continuing bonds
   Keep meaningful objects that represent the person and use them consciously, not compulsively.
   Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
4. Speak or write to the person directly
   Address the deceased in letters, journal entries, or internal dialogue as a form of active continuing connection.
   Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
5. Recognise when loss is ambiguous, not just unacknowledged
   Some losses have no clear end point — a relationship that faded, a parent with dementia, a country left behind.
   Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical
6. Share the continuing bond in community
   Talk about the person with others who knew and loved them, keeping the relationship alive in shared memory.
   Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
7. Map the assumptive world the loss disrupted
   Identify which of your core beliefs about life, self, and the future the loss has challenged.
   Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
8. Create private rituals for losses that have no public ceremony
   Design your own mourning practice for a loss that comes with no cultural script.
   Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical
9. Articulate the person’s life imprint on you
   Describe specifically how the person changed who you are — and carry that forward explicitly.
   Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
10. Mental Representations: The Expert’s Internal Map
    Mental representations, as described by Anders Ericsson in "Peak," are the internal cognitive structures that experts use to plan, monitor, and self-correct their performance in real time. Unlike novices, who hold general knowledge, experts hold richly detailed domain-specific models that make their performance faster, more accurate, and more self-correcting. These representations are built through deliberate practice and they, in turn, make further practice more efficient.

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