Coaching practices for Kegan Developmental Coaching

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• When I replay my coaching conversations I’m talking way more than the other person
• All the feedback I get is about whether I hit the target, and none of it touches the assumptions underneath how I’m even seeing the situation
• I only ever coach in the rare formal sit-down and then default to firing off answers in every quick hallway exchange
• The moment the person I’m coaching names a couple of ideas, I jump in with "have you considered" and basically hand them my answer
• I start each coaching conversation from scratch and never circle back to what the person said they’d do last time

Practices that may help

1. Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical
   Robert Kegan’s subject-object theory holds that adult development is a series of shifts in what you are "subject to" (run by, unable to see) versus what you can hold as "object" (observe and reflect on). Each developmental order expands what you can see about yourself and others, and the practices that support these transitions — reflective inquiry, perspective-taking, immunity mapping — have clinical grounding, though the stage theory itself is based primarily on observational and interview research.
2. Maintain a high question-to-statement ratio throughout GROW
   Ask questions far more often than you offer statements — the coachee’s thinking is the product.
   The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
3. Seek developmental feedback, not just performance feedback
   Ask for feedback that challenges your assumptions about how you see, not just how you perform.
   Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical
4. Use GROW in brief leadership conversations, not just formal coaching sessions
   Apply GROW structure to 5-minute hallway conversations and 1-on-1 check-ins — not only to hour-long coaching sessions.
   The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
5. Generate Options before evaluating any
   Brainstorm all possible paths before judging — then the coachee, not the coach, narrows them.
   The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
6. Close the GROW loop with session review
   At the start of the next session, review what was committed and what actually happened before setting a new goal.
   The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
7. Conduct a subject-object audit
   Identify what is currently running you without your awareness versus what you can observe and question.
   Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical
8. Obstacle anticipation before close
   Before ending, ask "what could get in the way?" and pre-plan the response.
   The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
9. Raise awareness and build responsibility simultaneously
   Help the person see their situation more clearly while also connecting them to their ownership of it.
   The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
10. Practice emotion coaching during low-stakes moments
    Build the skill in small moments so it’s available in the big ones.
    Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)

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