Coaching practices for Manager Faked My Experience to Get Projects From a Client
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- My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
- Someone senior just found out about a change after the fact and was hurt they were the last to know
- I keep promising this project will take a few weeks and it always blows way past that, and even now I’m certain this time will be different because of all the specific reasons it’s special
- When the team debriefs and credit gets handed around, I instantly downplay my part
- I keep delivering work I’m proud of and it somehow lands flat with my boss, and I’m realizing I have no real idea what they’re actually being judged on or pressured about
Practices that may help
- Send proactive, brief status updates
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Inform stakeholders before they ask, not after they complain
I’s are one-way — they receive information; the cost of surprising them is always higher than the cost of telling them.
The RACI Matrix, Made Practical - Take the outside view (base rates)
Estimate using the track record of similar cases, not the vivid details of your own.
Thinking, Fast and Slow, Made Usable - Practice owning your contribution in group settings
In team debrief or credit-distribution conversations, name your specific contribution before someone else summarizes it away.
Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical - Map your manager’s top three priorities
Know what your manager is measured on and being pressured about — your work lands differently when it connects to that.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Give information or insight freely as a reciprocity signal
Sharing real expertise before any transaction signals trustworthiness and activates the giving norm.
The Rule of Reciprocity, Made Practical - Let the report own the agenda
It’s their meeting — they bring what matters to them, and you adapt to it.
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical - Normalize impostor feelings through selective disclosure
Tell one trusted peer that you sometimes feel like a fraud — you will almost always find the feeling is mutual.
Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical - Identify the right reference class for your situation
Find a well-defined set of past situations that are structurally similar to yours and collect their outcome data.
Reference Class Forecasting - Build an achievement file
Keep a permanent, specific record of accomplishments so evidence is available when the impostor voice is loudest.
Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical
Related concerns
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Laughing at yourself in a low-stakes moment signals security and reduces social distance.
Use self-deprecating humor — selectively
- Achievement File Impostor Syndrome
Keep a permanent, specific record of accomplishments so evidence is available when the impostor voice is loudest.
Build an achievement file
- Behavioral Experiments Impostor Syndrome
Impostor phenomenon — the persistent belief that one’s success is undeserved and will soon be “exposed” — is not a character flaw but a cognitive pattern common among high achievers, first documented by Clance and Imes in 1978. It responds to evidence-gathering, cognitive restructuring, and normalization, though change is gradual rather than immediate.
- Boss Smokes And Colleagues Who Smoke Get Insider Info
Focus on the texture of day-to-day work, not the official narrative.
Listen for what isn’t in the job description
- Clance Imposter Phenomenon
Impostor phenomenon — the persistent belief that one’s success is undeserved and will soon be “exposed” — is not a character flaw but a cognitive pattern common among high achievers, first documented by Clance and Imes in 1978. It responds to evidence-gathering, cognitive restructuring, and normalization, though change is gradual rather than immediate.
- Coworker Is Lying About Insignificant Things
Separate the facts from the story you’re telling about them before you react.
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