Coaching practices for My Manager Notoriously Lies
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- My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
- I keep taking my boss’s frustrating decisions personally, like they’re just choosing to make my life harder
- I keep delivering work I’m proud of and it somehow lands flat with my boss, and I’m realizing I have no real idea what they’re actually being judged on or pressured about
- I send my boss the careful, detailed write-ups I’d want to receive and they barely skim them, and I keep blaming the content
- I think my boss is about to make the wrong call and I’m biting my tongue to keep the peace, then quietly stewing about it after
Practices that may help
- Send proactive, brief status updates
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Understand the constraints your manager operates under
Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Map your manager’s top three priorities
Know what your manager is measured on and being pressured about — your work lands differently when it connects to that.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Adapt to your manager’s communication style
Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Disagree with your manager constructively
State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Use the time to remove blockers
Ask what’s in their way and then actually clear it — this is your highest-leverage move.
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical - Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Assess the current quality of your leader-member relationship
Honestly diagnose where you stand in the relationship before trying to improve it.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Catch people doing things right
Most management attention goes to problems — systematically noticing good work is both rarer and more powerful.
The One Minute Manager: Three Practices That Still Work - Make feedback flow in both directions
Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical
Related concerns
- How Do I Evaluate A Manager I Have A Negative Opinion Of
Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
Understand the constraints your manager operates under
- How To Manage Your Boss
Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus.
- How To Update Your Boss
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Send proactive, brief status updates
- Managing Up At Work
Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus.
- My Manager Was Bad Mouthing Me And The Shifts I Do In A Pub
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
- Advice On Poor Communication With A Manager
Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
Adapt to your manager’s communication style
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