Coaching practices for My Wife Wants a Homosexual Child
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- There are things I want that I’ve never said out loud, because saying them feels too exposed
- After a blow-up with my kid we both stay frozen and far apart, and I keep trying to talk it through, to get an apology, while the distance just drags on
- We used to have our own little language
- I look at my partner and barely see them anymore
- Everything between us has gone so safe and predictable
Practices that may help
- Talking about desire without killing it
Name what you want without reducing it to a problem to be solved or a complaint to be managed.
Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships - Use play to re-establish connection after conflict or separation
Playful physical contact after a difficult moment re-welds the relationship faster than discussion.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Cultivating complicity: shared secret aliveness
Build a private world of in-jokes, gestures, and references that only you two share.
Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships - The erotic gaze: seeing your partner freshly
Deliberately practice seeing your partner as a stranger might — with curiosity, not familiarity.
Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships - Expanding eroticism beyond sex
Recognize and cultivate the erotic in non-sexual moments: risk, play, creativity, surprise.
Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships - Creating space: the paradox of distance and desire
Build deliberate separateness — apart time, separate interests, separate friendships — as the condition desire needs to regenerate.
Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships - Evaluate solutions for durability: realistic, mutually satisfying, safe
A collaborative solution that fails one of three tests — realistic, mutually satisfying, safe — will not hold.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships
Esther Perel argues that the conditions that make love secure — closeness, familiarity, predictability — are structurally at odds with the conditions that sustain erotic desire — mystery, distance, and the thrill of unpredictability. Sustaining desire is not about technique but about holding the paradox: you can be deeply known and still be a little unknown, still be an object of curiosity for each other. - Engage in safe rough-and-tumble play
Wrestling, chasing, and physical silliness build the regulation capacity that calm activities cannot.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
Related concerns
- Eroticism In Relationships
Recognize and cultivate the erotic in non-sexual moments: risk, play, creativity, surprise.
Expanding eroticism beyond sex
- Intimacy Vs Desire
Build deliberate separateness — apart time, separate interests, separate friendships — as the condition desire needs to regenerate.
Creating space: the paradox of distance and desire
- Mating In Captivity Esther Perel
Esther Perel argues that the conditions that make love secure — closeness, familiarity, predictability — are structurally at odds with the conditions that sustain erotic desire — mystery, distance, and the thrill of unpredictability. Sustaining desire is not about technique but about holding the paradox: you can be deeply known and still be a little unknown, still be an object of curiosity for each other.
- Mating In Captivity Sustaining Desire In Long Term Relationships After A Loss
Esther Perel argues that the conditions that make love secure — closeness, familiarity, predictability — are structurally at odds with the conditions that sustain erotic desire — mystery, distance, and the thrill of unpredictability. Sustaining desire is not about technique but about holding the paradox: you can be deeply known and still be a little unknown, still be an object of curiosity for each other.
- Mating In Captivity Sustaining Desire In Long Term Relationships As A Caregiver
Esther Perel argues that the conditions that make love secure — closeness, familiarity, predictability — are structurally at odds with the conditions that sustain erotic desire — mystery, distance, and the thrill of unpredictability. Sustaining desire is not about technique but about holding the paradox: you can be deeply known and still be a little unknown, still be an object of curiosity for each other.
- Mating In Captivity Sustaining Desire In Long Term Relationships At Work
Esther Perel argues that the conditions that make love secure — closeness, familiarity, predictability — are structurally at odds with the conditions that sustain erotic desire — mystery, distance, and the thrill of unpredictability. Sustaining desire is not about technique but about holding the paradox: you can be deeply known and still be a little unknown, still be an object of curiosity for each other.
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