Coaching practices for Observation vs Interpretation Feedback
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- I deliver my feedback as a finished verdict and then the other person just sits there closed off
- No matter how carefully I word it, my feedback seems to land as me sitting in judgment over them from above
- I replay what happened and I only ever see it from my own side
- Every time I raise an issue with someone they get defensive and we end up arguing about whether they’re a good person instead of fixing the actual problem
- My feedback conversations end with the person nodding and saying "yeah, makes sense, got it"
Practices that may help
- Invite a response after delivering SBI
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Establish shared purpose before delivering critique
Frame critique as help toward a shared goal, not an evaluation from above.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Observe from multiple angles before drawing conclusions
Deliberately take different perspectives on the experience before deciding what it means.
Structured Reflection: Kolb’s Learning Cycle in Practice - Make feedback specific and behavioral, not evaluative
Describe what you observed, not what it says about the person.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Close feedback by checking understanding, not agreement
Ask "What did you take from that?" rather than "Do you agree?"
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Distinguish observable data from interpretation
Separate what a camera would record from what you made of it.
The Ladder of Inference - Describe behavior, not character
Say what the person did — actions, words — not what that says about who they are.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Seek developmental feedback, not just performance feedback
Ask for feedback that challenges your assumptions about how you see, not just how you perform.
Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical - Reflect deliberately after each significant experience
Immediately after a meaningful event, pause and observe what happened and how you responded — before interpreting it.
Kolb’s Experiential Learning Cycle: Learning by Doing and Reflecting - Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
The Johari Window
Related concerns
- Dialogic Feedback
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
Invite a response after delivering SBI
- Giving Feedback
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
- Impact Statement Feedback
Say what effect the behavior had — on you, on others, on the work.
Name the actual impact on you or the team
- Non Accusatory Feedback
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
- Behavior Vs Person Feedback
Feedback loops are the mechanism by which information about the gap between current and desired performance reaches the actor and drives adjustment. Cybernetics established the theoretical foundation; decades of applied research confirm that self-monitoring and feedback are among the most robust behavior-change techniques — particularly for health behaviors. The key design questions are feedback frequency, the right metric, and the gap between signal and response.
- Engaged Feedback
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
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