Coaching practices for Impact Statement Feedback
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I tell people what they did wrong but they don’t see why it actually matters, so nothing changes
- I tell someone what went wrong but never say what I actually want instead, so they walk away knowing they messed up with no idea what "right" looks like
- I blurt out corrections in the heat of the moment, often right in front of other people, and instead of taking it in they just get humiliated and dig in
- I tend to bite my tongue in the moment and save things up for the formal review, and then I dump weeks of accumulated issues on someone all at once
- I deliver my feedback as a finished verdict and then the other person just sits there closed off
Practices that may help
- Name the actual impact on you or the team
Say what effect the behavior had — on you, on others, on the work.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Add a forward-looking request to SBI
Pair the impact statement with a specific, doable request for next time.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Give feedback in the moment, not stockpiled for reviews
Feedback accumulated for a periodic review arrives late and in bulk — neither helps.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Invite a response after delivering SBI
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Describe behavior, not character
Say what the person did — actions, words — not what that says about who they are.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Close feedback by checking understanding, not agreement
Ask "What did you take from that?" rather than "Do you agree?"
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Establish shared purpose before delivering critique
Frame critique as help toward a shared goal, not an evaluation from above.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Make feedback specific and behavioral, not evaluative
Describe what you observed, not what it says about the person.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
The Johari Window
Related concerns
- Giving Feedback
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
Invite a response after delivering SBI
- How To Give Feedback Without Telling
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
- Behavior Not Character Feedback
Say what the person did — actions, words — not what that says about who they are.
Describe behavior, not character
- Elicit Before Providing Feedback
Ask the person to evaluate their own performance before giving yours.
Ask what the person already knows before offering your assessment
- Feedback Sandwich Problems
The feedback sandwich (positive–negative–positive) is the dominant model for giving feedback in workplaces, but research and practitioner experience suggest it routinely fails: recipients either remember only the positive parts or dismiss the negative as softened insincerity. The practices below cover why it fails mechanistically and what specific alternatives are better supported.
- How To Explain Why Feedback Matters
Say what effect the behavior had — on you, on others, on the work.
Name the actual impact on you or the team
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