Coaching practices for Openness to Feedback Psychology

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• The instant someone gives me hard feedback I’m already explaining and defending myself
• The moment someone criticizes me my mind instantly finds the flaw in how they said it or the reason they’re wrong, and it feels like sharp thinking
• All the feedback I get is about whether I hit the target, and none of it touches the assumptions underneath how I’m even seeing the situation
• I blurt out corrections in the heat of the moment, often right in front of other people, and instead of taking it in they just get humiliated and dig in
• The moment I open a review or critical note, my guard slams up and I start mentally arguing back before I’ve even read it

Practices that may help

1. Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
   Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
   The Johari Window
2. Receive feedback without defending or dismissing
   Take in critical feedback completely before evaluating it — and look for the part that is true.
   Radical Openness: The RO-DBT Approach to Overcontrol and Loneliness
3. Seek developmental feedback, not just performance feedback
   Ask for feedback that challenges your assumptions about how you see, not just how you perform.
   Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical
4. Feedback Loops and Behavior Change
   Feedback loops are the mechanism by which information about the gap between current and desired performance reaches the actor and drives adjustment. Cybernetics established the theoretical foundation; decades of applied research confirm that self-monitoring and feedback are among the most robust behavior-change techniques — particularly for health behaviors. The key design questions are feedback frequency, the right metric, and the gap between signal and response.
5. Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
   Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
6. Affirm before receiving critical feedback
   Do a brief values reflection before reading a critical evaluation so you can take in the information rather than defend against it.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
7. Using openness to calibrate your learning approach
   High openness means you need variety and novelty to stay engaged; low openness means deep, bounded practice outperforms breadth.
   The Big Five Personality Model
8. Invite a response after delivering SBI
   Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
9. Make feedback flow in both directions
   Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.
   Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical
10. Ask for feedback before you give it
    Earn the right to challenge by inviting challenge yourself, first.
    Radical Candor, Made Practical

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