Coaching practices for Person vs Behavior Feedback
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- When I give someone feedback it slides into labeling who they are
- Every time I raise an issue with someone they get defensive and we end up arguing about whether they’re a good person instead of fixing the actual problem
- I tell someone what went wrong but never say what I actually want instead, so they walk away knowing they messed up with no idea what "right" looks like
- I blurt out corrections in the heat of the moment, often right in front of other people, and instead of taking it in they just get humiliated and dig in
- Looking at my own numbers has started to feel like getting audited
Practices that may help
- Feedback Loops and Behavior Change
Feedback loops are the mechanism by which information about the gap between current and desired performance reaches the actor and drives adjustment. Cybernetics established the theoretical foundation; decades of applied research confirm that self-monitoring and feedback are among the most robust behavior-change techniques — particularly for health behaviors. The key design questions are feedback frequency, the right metric, and the gap between signal and response. - Describe behavior, not character
Say what the person did — actions, words — not what that says about who they are.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Make feedback specific and behavioral, not evaluative
Describe what you observed, not what it says about the person.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Add a forward-looking request to SBI
Pair the impact statement with a specific, doable request for next time.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Create a feedback acknowledgment ritual to close each tracking cycle
A brief, consistent closing ritual after reviewing behavioral data anchors the feedback loop and prevents it from becoming pure surveillance.
Feedback Loops and Behavior Change - The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
The SBI model (Situation–Behavior–Impact), developed by the Center for Creative Leadership, structures feedback by anchoring it to an observable moment, describing the behavior seen rather than inferring motive, and naming the actual impact. This reduces defensiveness and attribution errors; the model is established clinical practice in leadership development, though direct RCT comparisons to other feedback approaches are limited. - Install feedback loops to track behavior and adjust
Measure the behavior directly and use the data to update your intervention, not just your motivation.
The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel - Give feedback in the moment, not stockpiled for reviews
Feedback accumulated for a periodic review arrives late and in bulk — neither helps.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Invite a response after delivering SBI
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Behavior Not Character Feedback
Say what the person did — actions, words — not what that says about who they are.
Describe behavior, not character
- Behavior Vs Person Feedback
Feedback loops are the mechanism by which information about the gap between current and desired performance reaches the actor and drives adjustment. Cybernetics established the theoretical foundation; decades of applied research confirm that self-monitoring and feedback are among the most robust behavior-change techniques — particularly for health behaviors. The key design questions are feedback frequency, the right metric, and the gap between signal and response.
- Behavioral Feedback
Feedback loops are the mechanism by which information about the gap between current and desired performance reaches the actor and drives adjustment. Cybernetics established the theoretical foundation; decades of applied research confirm that self-monitoring and feedback are among the most robust behavior-change techniques — particularly for health behaviors. The key design questions are feedback frequency, the right metric, and the gap between signal and response.
- Behavioral Specific Feedback
Feedback loops are the mechanism by which information about the gap between current and desired performance reaches the actor and drives adjustment. Cybernetics established the theoretical foundation; decades of applied research confirm that self-monitoring and feedback are among the most robust behavior-change techniques — particularly for health behaviors. The key design questions are feedback frequency, the right metric, and the gap between signal and response.
- Specific Feedback Examples
Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
- Behavior Feedback System
Feedback loops are the mechanism by which information about the gap between current and desired performance reaches the actor and drives adjustment. Cybernetics established the theoretical foundation; decades of applied research confirm that self-monitoring and feedback are among the most robust behavior-change techniques — particularly for health behaviors. The key design questions are feedback frequency, the right metric, and the gap between signal and response.
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