Coaching practices for Plan Do Study Act Deming S Loop for Personal Improvement During Conflict

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• When something flops, I notice how fast my mind starts spinning reasons it doesn’t really count
• I keep replaying this fight as a list of everything they did wrong, and as long as it’s all their fault we just stay stuck
• Every time this conflict flares my mind races to how they’re at fault, and I keep noticing I never once turn the question around to my own expectations and reactions
• After a bad result I tend to change everything at once, and then when the next round goes differently I have no idea which tweak actually did it
• I keep building these big elaborate plans before I ever start, and by the time I’ve poured weeks into one I’m too invested to admit it isn’t working

Practices that may help

1. Plan–Do–Study–Act: Deming’s Loop for Personal Improvement
   The Plan–Do–Study–Act (PDSA) cycle is a four-step iterative method developed by W. Edwards Deming: form a hypothesis, run a small test, study what actually happened, then act on the lesson before cycling again. Originally industrial, it applies directly to personal skill-building: it replaces vague "try harder" with small, testable experiments and forces honest assessment of results.
2. Study the gap between prediction and result with honesty
   Compare what you expected to what happened, and resist the urge to explain the gap away.
   Plan–Do–Study–Act: Deming’s Loop for Personal Improvement
3. Look for contribution, not blame
   Almost every conflict has contributions from both sides — finding yours changes the conversation.
   Looping for Understanding (Difficult Conversations)
4. Drive all blames into one
   When conflict arises, examine how self-grasping is the root, rather than blaming the other person.
   Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
5. Act on exactly one change before cycling again
   Carry one specific modification into the next cycle — not a wholesale overhaul.
   Plan–Do–Study–Act: Deming’s Loop for Personal Improvement
6. Run the smallest test that can answer the question
   Shrink your experiment so the feedback cycle is fast and the cost of being wrong is low.
   Plan–Do–Study–Act: Deming’s Loop for Personal Improvement
7. FAST: maintaining self-respect in difficult interactions
   Fair, no Apologies, Stick to values, Truthful — the self-respect compass for high-pressure conversations.
   DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship
8. Transform the relationship, not just the issue
   Use each conflict as an opportunity to raise the quality of the relationship itself.
   The Third Alternative, Made Practical
9. Three-goals prioritization: objective, relationship, or self-respect?
   Before entering a difficult conversation, decide which of the three goals matters most right now.
   DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship
10. Run a plan-monitor-evaluate loop
    Before, during, and after a task, ask what you will do, how it is going, and what to change.
    Metacognition: Knowing What You Actually Know

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