Coaching practices for Possible Selves After a Loss
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Possible Selves After a Loss, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The life I’d assumed I’d have is just gone, and as devastating as that is, I’m quietly starting to notice doors I never would have looked at before
- Something I built my life around has ended
- Since they died, the whole ground I stood on is gone
- It’s been long enough that I can quietly admit something in me has shifted since they died
- I hit one failure and the whole goal suddenly feels impossibly far away
Practices that may help
- Domain 2 — New possibilities
When an old path is closed off, genuinely new directions and priorities can open.
Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical - Reframing loss as transformation
When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift - Map the assumptive world the loss disrupted
Identify which of your core beliefs about life, self, and the future the loss has challenged.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Invoke the possible self during setbacks
When you fail or stall, return to the hoped-for self — not to the outcome goal — as your re-orienting anchor.
Possible Selves, Made Practical - Carry forward the person’s legacy in your own life
Identify values, projects, or commitments the person cared about and carry them forward yourself.
Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical - Reconstruct your identity post-loss
Actively develop the new self that emerges when a core relationship or role is gone.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Plan how to repair each worst case
If the worst case happened anyway, write how you’d get back to where you are now.
Fear-Setting, Made Practical - Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Designing Your Life After A Loss
When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
Reframing loss as transformation
- How To Grieve Loss Identity Life Transition
When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
- New Possibilities After Loss
When an old path is closed off, genuinely new directions and priorities can open.
Domain 2 — New possibilities
- The Examined Life After A Loss
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
- Who Am I After Loss
Actively develop the new self that emerges when a core relationship or role is gone.
Reconstruct your identity post-loss
- Essentialism After A Loss
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
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