Coaching practices for Predictable Parenting Routine

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• There are a few situations that go badly every single time
• I keep meaning to spend real one-on-one time with my kid but it gets squeezed out by everything else, and I think the unpredictability is part of why they keep grabbing at me
• My kid only seems to come at me when they want something or when they’re acting out, and I realize the only time I really pay full attention is when I’m correcting them
• There’s a window every day
• When my kid messes up I just grab whatever punishment is handy

Practices that may help

1. Plan behavior management strategies in advance
   Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
2. Schedule and protect special time as a non-negotiable
   Put it in the calendar, name it, and keep the appointment.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
3. Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
   Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
4. Use special time to fill the connection cup before problems escalate
   A proactive ten-minute connection recharge can prevent an afternoon of battles.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
5. Use logical consequences that fit the behavior
   A consequence that is directly connected to the behavior teaches cause and effect instead of just imposing discomfort.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
6. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
   Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
7. Provide warmth and structure simultaneously
   Children need to know they are loved and to know what is expected — these work together, not against each other.
   Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind)
8. Maintain an unsolved problems list
   Write down recurring triggers so they become solvable problems rather than repeated emergencies.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
9. Give clear, calm, single instructions
   One specific direction at a time, calmly stated once, is more effective than repeated commands.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
10. Manage your own emotional state before responding
    A regulated parent is the single most powerful behavior management tool available.
    Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)

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