Coaching practices for Plan B Parenting

Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Plan B Parenting, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• There are a few situations that go badly every single time
• I lose my temper with my kid and then feel sick about it for hours
• When my kid messes up I just grab whatever punishment is handy
• My kid only seems to come at me when they want something or when they’re acting out, and I realize the only time I really pay full attention is when I’m correcting them
• Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together

Practices that may help

1. Plan behavior management strategies in advance
   Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
2. Manage your own emotional state before responding
   A regulated parent is the single most powerful behavior management tool available.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
3. Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
   Triple P — Positive Parenting Program — is a multilevel evidence-based parenting support system developed by Matthew Sanders at the University of Queensland. It teaches positive relationship skills, proactive management strategies, and calm responses to misbehavior. Multiple meta-analyses and RCTs support its effectiveness for reducing child behavior problems and parent stress, making it one of the most rigorously evaluated parenting programs in the world.
4. Use logical consequences that fit the behavior
   A consequence that is directly connected to the behavior teaches cause and effect instead of just imposing discomfort.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
5. Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
   Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
6. Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
   Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
7. Schedule and protect special time as a non-negotiable
   Put it in the calendar, name it, and keep the appointment.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
8. Plan for obstacles with coping plans
   Anticipate the specific obstacles most likely to block your plan and pre-decide your response to each.
   Action Planning
9. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
   Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
10. Use special time to fill the connection cup before problems escalate
    A proactive ten-minute connection recharge can prevent an afternoon of battles.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)

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