Coaching practices for Principled Negotiation as a Caregiver
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- Every time I push back on the terms it somehow turns into them feeling attacked, and then we’re fighting about us instead of the actual issue
- We’re treating this like there’s one pie to fight over and someone has to lose
- Every time I push on the actual issue it lands as a personal attack and we both get defensive
- The second they push back I either cave completely or harden into all-or-nothing, because I walked in without ever deciding what I could actually live with
- It’s turned into a pure contest of who’ll budge first, and I hate that whoever caves just loses face
Practices that may help
- Principled Negotiation, Made Practical
Principled negotiation, developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in Getting to Yes, replaces positional bargaining with a method built on four elements: separate the people from the problem, focus on interests rather than positions, generate options for mutual gain, and insist on objective criteria. It aims for agreements that are better for both parties than their alternatives — without requiring either to capitulate or play hardball. - Separate the people from the problem
Address relationship concerns and substantive issues in different registers — treating people well and the problem hard.
Principled Negotiation, Made Practical - Invent options for mutual gain
Brainstorm multiple possible deals before deciding, expanding the pie before splitting it.
Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation - Separate the people from the problem
Be hard on the problem, soft on the people — attack the issue, not each other.
Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation - Negotiate: know your minimum and be willing to give and take
Decide in advance what you are willing to accept short of your full ask, and be ready to offer something in exchange.
DEAR MAN: DBT’s Skill for Asking for What You Want Effectively - Insist on objective criteria to evaluate options
Agree on an independent standard — market rate, precedent, expert opinion — before applying it to the specific deal.
Principled Negotiation, Made Practical - Acknowledge emotions explicitly in negotiation
Name what you see the other side feeling — it reduces defensive heat and keeps the substantive conversation workable.
Principled Negotiation, Made Practical - Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation
Getting to Yes (Fisher & Ury, of the Harvard Negotiation Project) argues for negotiating on the merits instead of haggling over positions: separate people from the problem, focus on underlying interests, invent options for mutual gain, and judge outcomes by objective criteria — with your BATNA as the source of real leverage. It’s an influential framework grounded in decision theory and negotiation experience rather than a lab-tested protocol. - Expand the pie before you divide it
In negotiations, surface what the other side actually values most before claiming your share.
Give and Take: The Giver Advantage - Invent options for mutual gain before selecting
Generate multiple creative options without commitment before evaluating any — the solution space is usually larger than the initial positions suggest.
Principled Negotiation, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Principled Negotiation
Principled negotiation, developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in Getting to Yes, replaces positional bargaining with a method built on four elements: separate the people from the problem, focus on interests rather than positions, generate options for mutual gain, and insist on objective criteria. It aims for agreements that are better for both parties than their alternatives — without requiring either to capitulate or play hardball.
- Principled Negotiation After A Loss
Principled negotiation, developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in Getting to Yes, replaces positional bargaining with a method built on four elements: separate the people from the problem, focus on interests rather than positions, generate options for mutual gain, and insist on objective criteria. It aims for agreements that are better for both parties than their alternatives — without requiring either to capitulate or play hardball.
- Principled Negotiation As A Parent
Principled negotiation, developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in Getting to Yes, replaces positional bargaining with a method built on four elements: separate the people from the problem, focus on interests rather than positions, generate options for mutual gain, and insist on objective criteria. It aims for agreements that are better for both parties than their alternatives — without requiring either to capitulate or play hardball.
- Principled Negotiation At Work
Principled negotiation, developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in Getting to Yes, replaces positional bargaining with a method built on four elements: separate the people from the problem, focus on interests rather than positions, generate options for mutual gain, and insist on objective criteria. It aims for agreements that are better for both parties than their alternatives — without requiring either to capitulate or play hardball.
- Principled Negotiation Before Bed
Principled negotiation, developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in Getting to Yes, replaces positional bargaining with a method built on four elements: separate the people from the problem, focus on interests rather than positions, generate options for mutual gain, and insist on objective criteria. It aims for agreements that are better for both parties than their alternatives — without requiring either to capitulate or play hardball.
- Principled Negotiation During A Big Change
Principled negotiation, developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in Getting to Yes, replaces positional bargaining with a method built on four elements: separate the people from the problem, focus on interests rather than positions, generate options for mutual gain, and insist on objective criteria. It aims for agreements that are better for both parties than their alternatives — without requiring either to capitulate or play hardball.
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