Coaching practices for Rational Animal Marcus Aurelius

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I keep landing in one of two ditches
  • Everything I’m chasing right now is for me
  • There’s this one person who gets right under my skin, and I’ve started to see them as just an obstacle, almost less than human
  • This one problem has swelled up to fill my entire field of vision, like it’s the only thing in the world
  • I’m weighing a choice and I notice I’m only asking what’s best for me, then quietly building a clever story for why that’s also fine for everyone

Practices that may help

  1. Act as a rational social animal — remember your dual nature
    Before acting, check both: is this rational (consistent with reason and reality)? And is it social (does it serve others)?
    The Stoic Discipline of Action
  2. Orient action toward the common good
    Before acting, ask: does this serve only me, or does it contribute to something beyond myself?
    The Stoic Discipline of Action
  3. Meditations, as Marcus Practiced It
    Meditations was Marcus Aurelius’ private journal — a set of self-directed exercises for keeping his judgment steady while running an empire: writing to himself, rehearsing the day’s difficult people, separating events from his opinions about them, and remembering how small and brief it all is. The strongest evidence for these is their direct line into cognitive behavioral therapy and into expressive-writing and self-distancing research.
  4. See the shared humanity in difficult people
    When someone frustrates you, remind yourself they are part of the same rational whole — and act from that.
    Sympatheia — the Stoic Practice of Universal Interconnection
  5. Place it in the scale of the whole
    Set your problem against the size of the universe and the brevity of all human time.
    Meditations, as Marcus Practiced It
  6. Test your actions against the common good
    Ask whether what you’re about to do serves or damages the common good — not just your interests.
    Sympatheia — the Stoic Practice of Universal Interconnection
  7. Write to yourself (the Meditations method)
    Keep a private notebook where you argue yourself back to your own principles, in your own words.
    Meditations, as Marcus Practiced It
  8. The Inner Citadel
    The "inner citadel" is Pierre Hadot’s name for a core idea in Marcus Aurelius: your own rational mind — your power to judge and assent — is the one place that cannot be taken from you by external events. Marcus calls it the "hegemonikon" (ruling faculty). Building it means training your faculty of assent so it responds to impressions deliberately rather than being yanked by them. The practices are largely mechanistic and clinical in their evidence base, via the well-known Stoicism-to-CBT lineage.
  9. Write to yourself, not for an audience
    Keep a private record of philosophical self-argument, not a performance or a diary.
    The Stoic Daily Review
  10. Premeditate the difficult people
    Each morning, expect to meet the ungrateful, the arrogant, and the dishonest — and pre-decide your response.
    Meditations, as Marcus Practiced It

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