Coaching practices for Recommending My Wife for a Job at My Workplace

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
• My team keeps bringing me bare problems and looking at me to solve them, so I end up doing all the thinking
• I want this person to feel respected and drawn in, and I keep thinking in terms of doing things for them
• My whole job search is just refreshing job boards and firing off applications into the void, competing with hundreds of strangers for whatever happens to be posted
• I want to message someone in a field I’m curious about, but I freeze on what to even say

Practices that may help

1. Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
   Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
2. Push recommendations up, not problems
   Require reports to bring a recommendation alongside any problem — it’s a delegation practice, not just a time-saver.
   Delegation Levels, Made Practical
3. Ask for their expertise or opinion — not just their help
   Requesting someone’s expert opinion generates more liking than requesting their labor.
   The Ben Franklin Effect, Made Practical
4. Build and work a target list of roles and organisations
   Replace passive job board browsing with active research into specific organisations you want to understand.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
5. Request the conversation the right way
   A short, specific, no-pressure request gets far more responses than a vague networking ask.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
6. Adapt to your manager’s communication style
   Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
7. Disagree with your manager constructively
   State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
8. Share advice with permission (ask–offer–ask)
   Ask what they know, offer information with consent, then ask what they make of it.
   Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
9. Frame problems with SCQA (Situation–Complication–Question–Answer)
   Use the SCQA framework to establish context cleanly before stating your recommendation.
   The Minto Pyramid Principle
10. Make cross-cluster introductions
    Introduce two people from different clusters who genuinely benefit from meeting.
    The Strength of Weak Ties

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