Coaching practices for Relationships Between Siblings in New Family Arrangement
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- My partner sided with their family over me again, or didn’t back me up in front of others, and I’m left unsure whether they’ll actually put us first when it counts
- Some of my closest friendships feel like we’re living in different worlds now, and I feel guilty for drifting
- We still love each other but every week is the same loop
- My partner and I have drifted into totally separate social lives
- My partner is going through a huge change right now
Practices that may help
- Create and protect the couple bubble
Agree that you each put the relationship above any third party, including family of origin.
Secure-Functioning Relationships - Review whether your key relationships are season-appropriate
Some relationships that sustained you in a past season may be misaligned with your current one — and vice versa.
Seasons of Life - Do novel, moderately challenging activities together
New and slightly difficult shared experiences restore the self-expansion that keeps closeness alive.
Self-Expansion Model: How Relationships Grow (and Stagnate) Us - Invest in shared social networks
Spend time with people who affirm and are connected to both of you as a couple.
Relationship Maintenance Behaviors - Update your love map after major life changes
When life shifts, assume your map is outdated and ask new questions.
Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World - Regularly share novel and enjoyable activities
Do new things together — not only comfortable or habitual ones.
Relationship Maintenance Behaviors - Use play to re-establish connection after conflict or separation
Playful physical contact after a difficult moment re-welds the relationship faster than discussion.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Practise including the other person in your self-concept
Close relationships develop when you genuinely incorporate the other’s perspectives and resources into how you think — not just spend time with them.
Self-Expansion Model: How Relationships Grow (and Stagnate) Us - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Share tasks equitably — and feel equitable about it
Divide practical responsibilities in a way both partners experience as fair.
Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
Related concerns
- Couple Bubble Stan Tatkin
Agree that you each put the relationship above any third party, including family of origin.
Create and protect the couple bubble
- Growing Together Relationships
Growing alongside a partner or friend, rather than separately, leverages the self-expansion mechanism for both people simultaneously.
Pursue personal growth that you share — not parallel but joint
- Season Mismatch Relationships
Some relationships that sustained you in a past season may be misaligned with your current one — and vice versa.
Review whether your key relationships are season-appropriate
- Shared Investment Couples
Name and acknowledge the shared investments in the relationship — children, history, shared projects — to both parties.
Making your investments visible to both partners
- Two Boys How And When Will Their Relationship Change
Growing alongside a partner or friend, rather than separately, leverages the self-expansion mechanism for both people simultaneously.
- When Mating In Captivity Rekindling After Drift
Recognize a drift in erotic connection as normal — and name it as the beginning of a renewal, not a failure.
Rekindling after a drift: returning to aliveness
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