Coaching practices for Resisting Counter Persuasion

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• I get someone on board, and then they go talk to someone who pushes back, and by the time I see them again they’ve quietly drifted right back to where they started
• The second they push back I feel myself bracing to argue, and we end up locked in a tug-of-war where the harder I pull, the harder they pull the other way
• When I’m trying to resist something I keep it right in front of me and stare it down, telling myself "just don’t"
• I say no, but then they push and push
• Someone’s clearly digging their heels in, and every time I argue back with why they’re wrong it only makes them push harder

Practices that may help

1. Inoculate against counter-persuasion
   Expose people to weakened counter-arguments so they build resistance before a real attack arrives.
   Elaboration Likelihood Model, Made Practical
2. Roll with resistance instead of fighting it
   When you meet a push-back, soften and reflect rather than argue.
   Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
3. Redirect attention away from the reward
   You do not resist the temptation by staring at it — you win by looking elsewhere.
   Delayed Gratification, Made Practical
4. Broken record: maintaining a position without escalating
   Repeat your position calmly and consistently when met with pressure to abandon it.
   DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship
5. Name the resistance out loud
   Acknowledging push-back diffuses it; arguing with it amplifies it.
   Psychological Reactance: Working With the Push-Back Reflex
6. The broken-record technique
   Calmly repeat your position without being derailed by arguments or guilt-trips.
   Assertiveness Training, Made Practical
7. Use two-sided messages with a sophisticated audience
   Acknowledge the strongest objection, then refute it — this is more persuasive than ignoring it.
   Elaboration Likelihood Model, Made Practical
8. Replace commands with genuine choices
   Frame requests as options rather than obligations to neutralize the threat to freedom.
   Psychological Reactance: Working With the Push-Back Reflex
9. Use "How am I supposed to do that?" to deflect impossible demands
   Turning an unreasonable demand back into their problem collapses it without saying no.
   Calibrated Questions, Made Practical
10. See things from the other person’s point of view
    Try honestly to see things from the other person’s angle before you argue your own.
    How to Win Friends and Influence People, Made Practical

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