Coaching practices for Self Determination Theory Made Usable During a Big Change

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• I’ve been white-knuckling this change through sheer willpower and keep collapsing back
• Someone else handed me this goal and I’ve been quietly resenting it as not mine, doing the bare minimum out of spite
• Everything on my plate is something I "have to" do for someone else, and approaching it that way I feel coerced and flat
• The more I order myself around
• My motivation for this keeps fading because it’s all external

Practices that may help

1. Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable
   Self-Determination Theory (Deci & Ryan) holds that durable motivation depends on three basic psychological needs being met: autonomy (acting from your own values), competence (feeling effective), and relatedness (feeling connected). Meet the needs and motivation becomes self-sustaining; thwart them and even rewarded behavior decays. The core claims are among the best-supported in motivation science.
2. Use reciprocal determinism to change behavior by changing environment or cognition first
   Because person, behavior, and environment influence each other, changing any one of them can shift the whole system.
   Social Cognitive Theory
3. Internalize goals you did not choose
   Move externally set goals along the spectrum from "have to" toward "value".
   Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable
4. Locate the autonomous "why"
   Reframe a task until you are doing it from your own values, not external pressure.
   Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable
5. Use autonomy-supportive self-talk
   Coach yourself with choice and rationale, not "shoulds" and self-pressure.
   Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable
6. Practice self-reevaluation to build a new self-image
   Imagine how you will think and feel about yourself once you have changed — and how you’ll feel if you don’t.
   The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical
7. Anchor each goal to a named, personal value
   Make the goal an expression of a specific value so it stays motivating when difficulty peaks.
   Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical
8. Use belief and community to make change stick
   A supportive group and a belief that change is possible help new habits survive stress.
   The Power of Habit, Made Practical
9. Design the experiment as an environmental probe
   Test one specific context change rather than your willpower.
   Tiny Experiments: Testing Change Without Committing to It
10. Build agency with deliberate small wins
    Stack a series of small, completable actions to give yourself direct evidence that you can move outcomes.
    Locus of Control: Building a Sense of Agency

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