Coaching practices for Self Determination Theory Made Usable During Conflict
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- The more I order myself around
- The second things get tense I snap into the same move every time without choosing it
- I handle every disagreement the same way
- Everything on my plate is something I "have to" do for someone else, and approaching it that way I feel coerced and flat
- Something’s genuinely wrong here and there’s no time to coax everyone to a comfortable yes
Practices that may help
- Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable
Self-Determination Theory (Deci & Ryan) holds that durable motivation depends on three basic psychological needs being met: autonomy (acting from your own values), competence (feeling effective), and relatedness (feeling connected). Meet the needs and motivation becomes self-sustaining; thwart them and even rewarded behavior decays. The core claims are among the best-supported in motivation science. - Use autonomy-supportive self-talk
Coach yourself with choice and rationale, not "shoulds" and self-pressure.
Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable - Identify your default conflict mode
Before you can choose a mode, you have to know which one you use automatically.
The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) - Choose your style deliberately
The real skill isn’t a favorite style — it’s matching the style to the situation instead of defaulting.
The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles - Locate the autonomous "why"
Reframe a task until you are doing it from your own values, not external pressure.
Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable - Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles - Anchor each goal to a named, personal value
Make the goal an expression of a specific value so it stays motivating when difficulty peaks.
Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical - Internalize goals you did not choose
Move externally set goals along the spectrum from "have to" toward "value".
Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable - Separate the person from the problem
Treat the conflict as a problem you face together, not a contest you fight each other.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical - Use Competing when speed or safety matters more than buy-in
Competing — high assertive, low cooperative — is appropriate when the decision is urgent, high-stakes, and not open for debate.
The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
Related concerns
- Self Determination
Self-Determination Theory (Deci & Ryan) holds that durable motivation depends on three basic psychological needs being met: autonomy (acting from your own values), competence (feeling effective), and relatedness (feeling connected). Meet the needs and motivation becomes self-sustaining; thwart them and even rewarded behavior decays. The core claims are among the best-supported in motivation science.
- Self Determination Theory Made Usable At Work
Self-Determination Theory (Deci & Ryan) holds that durable motivation depends on three basic psychological needs being met: autonomy (acting from your own values), competence (feeling effective), and relatedness (feeling connected). Meet the needs and motivation becomes self-sustaining; thwart them and even rewarded behavior decays. The core claims are among the best-supported in motivation science.
- Self Determination Theory Made Usable During A Big Change
Self-Determination Theory (Deci & Ryan) holds that durable motivation depends on three basic psychological needs being met: autonomy (acting from your own values), competence (feeling effective), and relatedness (feeling connected). Meet the needs and motivation becomes self-sustaining; thwart them and even rewarded behavior decays. The core claims are among the best-supported in motivation science.
- Self Determination Theory Made Usable In A New Job
Self-Determination Theory (Deci & Ryan) holds that durable motivation depends on three basic psychological needs being met: autonomy (acting from your own values), competence (feeling effective), and relatedness (feeling connected). Meet the needs and motivation becomes self-sustaining; thwart them and even rewarded behavior decays. The core claims are among the best-supported in motivation science.
- Self Determination Theory Made Usable When Burned Out
Self-Determination Theory (Deci & Ryan) holds that durable motivation depends on three basic psychological needs being met: autonomy (acting from your own values), competence (feeling effective), and relatedness (feeling connected). Meet the needs and motivation becomes self-sustaining; thwart them and even rewarded behavior decays. The core claims are among the best-supported in motivation science.
- Self Determination Theory Made Usable When Starting Out
Self-Determination Theory (Deci & Ryan) holds that durable motivation depends on three basic psychological needs being met: autonomy (acting from your own values), competence (feeling effective), and relatedness (feeling connected). Meet the needs and motivation becomes self-sustaining; thwart them and even rewarded behavior decays. The core claims are among the best-supported in motivation science.
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