Coaching practices for Self Talk Strategies During a Big Change
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- I already know the exact situations that throw me
- In the moment my mind goes blank and the only voice in my head is “you can’t handle this”
- Every time I try to tell myself I’m not the worthless, incompetent person I think I am, the whole thing snaps right back
- I’ve got a big move (or a new job) coming up in a couple of months, and I can feel it’s a rare chance to start fresh
- Right in the thick of a panicky moment my head is all "why am I like this, what’s wrong with me," and the more I narrate it as "I, I, I" the more I drown in it
Practices that may help
- Prepare "if-then" self-talk scripts for predictable pressure moments
Pre-script your self-talk response to the specific situations most likely to derail you.
Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical - Prepare coping self-talk in advance
Script what you will say to yourself at the trigger, during the peak, and afterward — before you need it.
Stress Inoculation Training - Update the self-concept incrementally
Revise one specific self-belief at a time — not the whole identity at once.
Self-Verification Theory, Made Practical - Identify and anticipate upcoming transition windows
Treat approaching life changes as scheduled opportunities for habit installation — plan before the transition, not after.
The Habit Discontinuity Effect - Talk to yourself in the third person
Use your own name or "you" instead of "I" when working through a hard moment.
Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems - Use self-directed speech to regulate problem-solving
Talk yourself through a hard task aloud; private speech is an internalized coaching voice.
Zone of Proximal Development: Learning at Your Real Edge - Monitor your self-talk patterns to identify what to change
Track what you actually say to yourself during and after performance before trying to change it.
Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical - Reframe the critic’s verdict as data, not identity
When the critic says "you failed," redirect to "what can I learn?" — a specific question, not a pep talk.
Working With Your Inner Critic - Use "we" language to describe your struggles
Shift from "I always fail at this" to "this is something a lot of us find hard."
Common Humanity, Made Practical - Cope-ahead planning for high-stakes interactions
Rehearse a difficult conversation in detail — mentally and verbally — before it happens.
DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship
Related concerns
- Self Talk Strategies When Starting Out
Say out loud — or in writing — the exact action you are about to do before you do it.
Use verbal self-instruction to initiate
- Hatzigeorgiadis Self Talk
Self-talk — the internal or external commentary we generate before and during performance — reliably affects performance outcomes, according to meta-analyses by Hatzigeorgiadis and colleagues. Instructional self-talk improves fine motor skill; motivational self-talk improves power and endurance tasks. The specific content and function of the self-talk matter more than whether it is positive or negative.
- Meichenbaum Self Talk
Script what you will say to yourself at the trigger, during the peak, and afterward — before you need it.
Prepare coping self-talk in advance
- Self Talk
Talk yourself through a hard task aloud; private speech is an internalized coaching voice.
Use self-directed speech to regulate problem-solving
- Self Talk Strategies For My Teenager
Pre-script your self-talk response to the specific situations most likely to derail you.
Prepare "if-then" self-talk scripts for predictable pressure moments
- Self Talk Strategies In A New Job
Pre-script your self-talk response to the specific situations most likely to derail you.
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