Coaching practices for Share Life Assessment Partner

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• I do these life check-ins alone in my head and then quietly let them slide, and I think if I actually said the low scores out loud to someone who’d remember, I couldn’t just keep ignoring them the way I always do.
• My partner and I have drifted into totally separate social lives
• When I take stock of my life I catch myself rounding everything up
• I tell myself we’re basically fine, but I have a nagging sense I’m overestimating what I bring and underestimating the friction
• My partner and I both have some quiet inner read on how close we actually feel lately, but neither of us ever says the number out loud

Practices that may help

1. Use the wheel as a relationship check-in, not just a solo exercise
   Sharing your wheel with a partner, coach, or trusted friend turns a self-assessment into a conversation and a commitment.
   The Wheel of Life, Made Practical
2. Invest in shared social networks
   Spend time with people who affirm and are connected to both of you as a couple.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
3. Rate each life domain with brutal honesty, not aspiration
   The wheel’s value is proportional to the honesty of your ratings — aspirational scores produce a pleasant picture that changes nothing.
   The Wheel of Life, Made Practical
4. Audit your actual ratio periodically
   Estimate your recent positive-to-negative ratio to get an honest read on where you actually are.
   The Magic Relationship Ratio: Gottman's 5-to-1 Principle
5. Ask "How are we doing?" as a genuine question
   Invite both partners to rate and describe the overall relationship state this week.
   The Relationship Check-In: A Structured Practice for Staying Connected
6. Practice openness through regular self-disclosure
   Share your thoughts, feelings, and daily experiences — not just problems.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
7. Tracking movement toward ideal self
   Measure your progress toward your ideal self over time — not just relationship satisfaction.
   The Michelangelo Phenomenon: How Partners Sculpt Each Other
8. Practice active-constructive responding (relationships pillar)
   Respond to others’ good news with genuine, engaged enthusiasm rather than passive acknowledgment.
   Seligman’s PERMA Model, Made Practical
9. Practise including the other person in your self-concept
   Close relationships develop when you genuinely incorporate the other’s perspectives and resources into how you think — not just spend time with them.
   Self-Expansion Model: How Relationships Grow (and Stagnate) Us
10. Create a shared bucket list with people you love
    A shared list is harder to defer and more motivating than a solo one — and the experiences themselves are richer.
    The Bucket List Method

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