Coaching practices for Should I Ask About a Colleague's Obvious Problem Even When I Don't Care Much
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- Someone on my team is clearly going through something heavy and I’ve just been carrying on talking deliverables like nothing’s wrong
- If a friend brought me this exact dilemma I’d know in two seconds what they should do, but stuck inside my own version I just go in circles
- Someone just came to me with a mistake and I felt my face tighten before I said a word
- I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
- I care about my people so much that I’ve started absorbing their personal crises and trying to fix their lives, and I can’t tell anymore where being a supportive manager stops and me overstepping into someone I shouldn’t be begins.
Practices that may help
- Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Give yourself advice as if advising a close friend
Describe your problem as if a close friend brought it to you — then write the advice you would give them.
Self-Distancing Journaling - Respond non-punitively to mistakes
When someone brings you a problem or mistake, make your first move curiosity, not blame.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Know where care ends and overreach begins
Caring personally means being available, not being a therapist — know the limit of your role.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Ask "What’s the real challenge here for you?"
The presenting problem is rarely the actual problem — this question cuts through to what really matters.
The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like - Listen before diagnosing
Resist the urge to solve until you can restate the problem in terms the other person agrees with.
The Trust Equation, Made Practical - Learn what each person actually wants from their career and life
Care personally means knowing the goal behind the job — not just what they’re working on, but why.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Recall how little you notice others
Inventory how often you notice strangers’ flaws — then apply that rate to yourself.
The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching - Assess the current quality of your leader-member relationship
Honestly diagnose where you stand in the relationship before trying to improve it.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
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