Coaching practices for How to Tell a Colleague to Take Care of How He Looks
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- I’m sure everyone is cataloguing my flaws, but if I’m honest I couldn’t tell you a single thing about what the person next to me on the train was wearing or whether they messed anything up
- I’m trying to get people to actually go check on something
- Someone on my team is clearly going through something heavy and I’ve just been carrying on talking deliverables like nothing’s wrong
- I catch myself dressing up the same excuses again, and I’m done softening it
- I send my boss the careful, detailed write-ups I’d want to receive and they barely skim them, and I keep blaming the content
Practices that may help
- Recall how little you notice others
Inventory how often you notice strangers’ flaws — then apply that rate to yourself.
The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching - Apply loss frames to detection and risk-awareness messages
Screening and early-warning messages consistently perform better when framed as losses rather than gains.
The Loss Frame: How Framing Shapes Decisions - Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - The daily accountability mirror
Stand before a mirror and state plainly what you’re failing to do — no softening, no excuses.
The Accountability Mirror: David Goggins’s Radical Honesty Practice - Adapt to your manager’s communication style
Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Delegate the outcome, not the procedure
Define what "done" looks like and why it matters, then leave the how to them.
Effective Delegation, Made Practical - Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Adapt how you deliver feedback to the person’s style
Deliver the same honest feedback in the form the other person can actually hear it.
The Platinum Rule - Learn what each person actually wants from their career and life
Care personally means knowing the goal behind the job — not just what they’re working on, but why.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Appear confident even when you don’t feel it
Maintain eye contact, a level voice, and an upright posture — confidence is performed before it’s felt.
DEAR MAN: DBT’s Skill for Asking for What You Want Effectively
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Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
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Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
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Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
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Use the arrow technique to identify the core belief driving your worst-case interpretation of what someone did.
Downward arrow for interpreting others’ behavior
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