Coaching practices for Should I Inform My Colleague Manager That I Get Sudden Bad Days
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- My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
- Someone on my team is clearly going through something heavy and I’ve just been carrying on talking deliverables like nothing’s wrong
- One bad day and I spiral, treating it like proof I’m failing
- When I quietly decline meetings to protect my focus time it comes across as me being unavailable or standoffish, and I keep having to re-negotiate it one request at a time
- I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
Practices that may help
- Send proactive, brief status updates
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Weekly trend analysis from daily scores
Review your scores at the end of each week to spot patterns rather than reacting to single-day noise.
The Morning Questions - Communicate your schedule mode to collaborators
Tell your team when you are in maker mode and what that means for response times.
Maker vs Manager Schedule - Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Respond non-punitively to mistakes
When someone brings you a problem or mistake, make your first move curiosity, not blame.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Use labeling across power asymmetries — with care
Labeling your senior’s frustration is more delicate than labeling a peer’s — name the stakes, not just the feeling.
Labeling Emotions in Negotiation, Made Practical - Communicate your theme-day structure to collaborators
Let colleagues know which days are off-limits for meetings so the structure is sustainable, not secret.
Theme Days, Made Practical - Read your own posture as a self-signal
Notice what your posture tells you about your state and respond to it.
Posture and Confidence, Honestly Explained - Apply three good things to work contexts specifically
Use the exercise to rewire what you notice about your work day — contribution, competence, and collaboration.
Three Good Things: The Evidence-Based Gratitude Practice
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Compare how you actually spend your time this week against what you say matters most.
Audit work hours against your stated priorities
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