Coaching practices for Small Doses Emotional Work

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• I only ever try to work with my body when something huge and overwhelming is already on me
• I only ever try this stuff when my kid is already in full meltdown, and that’s exactly when it comes out stiff and scripted and falls apart
• I spend all day arranging my face into the cheerful, capable version everyone expects while I feel nothing like it inside, and holding that mask up hour after hour is leaving me hollowed out and weirdly unsure of what I even feel underneath it anymore.
• Every time I try to face the hard stuff I go straight at the worst of it to just get it over with, and it floods me
• The big blowup is over but I’m completely wrung out

Practices that may help

1. Practice titration with low-stakes material to build the skill
   Apply the titration approach to ordinary everyday discomfort — mild frustration, physical tension, minor disappointment — to build the skill before harder material.
   Titration in Somatic Practice, Made Practical
2. Practice emotion coaching during low-stakes moments
   Build the skill in small moments so it’s available in the big ones.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
3. Stop surface acting
   Recognize when you’re masking emotions at work or in relationships, and find low-cost outlets for what you actually feel.
   Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
4. Titration (work in tiny, tolerable doses)
   Approach a hard sensation or memory in small sips, not all at once, so you stay regulated.
   Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained
5. Recover and recharge after intense emotion
   After an emotional peak, deliberately allow recovery time — intense arousal depletes resources.
   The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
6. Build emotional energy rituals to buffer against daily depletion
   Emotional energy is the quality of emotional availability you bring to work and relationships — and it is trainable through brief daily rituals.
   Energy Management, Not Time Management
7. Approach the edge of the memory, not the center
   When working with a difficult memory, start at its least intense periphery — a moment before, a sensation at the boundary — rather than its core.
   Titration in Somatic Practice, Made Practical
8. Use distraction deliberately as a short-term regulation tool
   Deliberately shifting attention away from an emotion-generating stimulus can provide a short-term window for recovery — if used strategically.
   Attentional Deployment, Made Practical
9. Manage emotional energy
   Cultivate positive emotional states deliberately, since they fuel performance and connection.
   The Power of Full Engagement, Made Practical
10. Accumulate positive experiences
    Deliberately do things that generate positive emotion — building a reservoir that distress draws from.
    DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical

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