Coaching practices for Strengths in Relationships

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Where I come alive is in the human glue
• With the person closest to me I’ve fallen into playing a role, and the most real parts of me stay tucked away
• We pass each other like roommates these days, connection only happening if it randomly happens, and there’s no reliable little moment that’s just ours
• I still genuinely respect and appreciate my partner, but somewhere along the way I stopped actually saying it out loud
• When things get stressful and busy, the warmth in my relationship is the first casualty because I have no energy left to be deliberate about it

Practices that may help

1. Lead from the relationship building domain — hold the team together
   People strong in relationship building are the glue that holds a team’s cohesion under pressure.
   Strengths-Based Leadership, Made Practical
2. Apply strengths consciously in your most important relationships
   Identify how your signature strengths are showing up — or failing to show up — in the relationships that matter most.
   VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
3. Build rituals of connection and shared meaning
   Create repeatable rituals that signal the relationship is a priority.
   The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships
4. Express fondness and admiration specifically
   Name what you genuinely respect and appreciate about your partner — out loud and specifically.
   The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships
5. Build small positive rituals that generate surplus passively
   Recurring small rituals deposit into the positive account without requiring sustained conscious effort.
   The Magic Relationship Ratio: Gottman's 5-to-1 Principle
6. Pro-relationship maintenance behaviors
   Actively do things that maintain and strengthen the relationship, rather than expecting it to run itself.
   The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
7. Create and protect the couple bubble
   Agree that you each put the relationship above any third party, including family of origin.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
8. Make capitalization a habit
   Treat your partner’s good news as a recurring opportunity to build the relationship.
   Active-Constructive Responding, Made Practical
9. Build positive deposits during non-conflict time
   When things are calm, actively add warmth, humor, affection, and interest -- not only absence of conflict.
   The Magic Relationship Ratio: Gottman's 5-to-1 Principle
10. Actively maintain memory of your relationship’s positive history
    PSO is partly built on a rich, accessible memory of good times — keep it alive.
    Positive Sentiment Override: How to Build the Lens That Protects Relationships

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