Coaching practices for Team Conflict Stages

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • My team feels off and I keep reacting to each flare-up as its own thing, but I can’t actually say what phase we’re in
  • There’s real friction on my team
  • There’s a real call that has to be made right now with no time to build consensus, and I keep softening it and hedging to keep everyone happy
  • I just took over a brand-new team and everyone’s being polite and looking to me for everything
  • My team is genuinely running well without me now, but I keep inserting myself into decisions they could make

Practices that may help

  1. Diagnose which stage your team is in
    Name the stage you’re in before you pick a leadership response.
    Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development
  2. Storming: name the conflict without taking sides
    Surface the tension that’s already there rather than managing it away.
    Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development
  3. Use Competing when speed or safety matters more than buy-in
    Competing — high assertive, low cooperative — is appropriate when the decision is urgent, high-stakes, and not open for debate.
    The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
  4. Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development
    Bruce Tuckman’s model describes four stages every team moves through — Forming, Storming, Norming, and Performing — before optionally Adjourning. The stages are a useful diagnostic map for leaders: friction in a new team is usually normal Storming, not a personnel problem.
  5. Forming: provide clarity before connection
    In the first stage, a new team needs structure and purpose more than it needs team-building.
    Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development
  6. Performing: step back and protect the conditions
    A Performing team needs air cover and resources, not direction.
    Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development
  7. Use Collaborating when the relationship and the solution both matter
    Collaborating — high assertive, high cooperative — finds a solution that genuinely works for both parties, but it takes time.
    The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
  8. Recognize when to shift modes mid-conflict
    The mode that’s right at the start of a conversation may not be right ten minutes in.
    The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
  9. Engage in productive ideological conflict
    Teams that avoid conflict don’t avoid disagreement — they bury it, where it grows into resentment and bad decisions.
    The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, Made Practical
  10. Recognize and recover from stage regression
    A team that was Performing can drop back to Storming — and the recovery move is different from the original ascent.
    Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development

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