Coaching practices for Team Resets Storming
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- We had a reorg — lost a key person, changed direction — and suddenly the team that used to hum is fighting and second-guessing again, and I’m treating it like they broke instead of seeing the ground shifted under them.
- There’s real friction on my team
- My team feels off and I keep reacting to each flare-up as its own thing, but I can’t actually say what phase we’re in
- The storm has finally passed and my kid is calm again, and I keep wanting to either just move on or fix the situation for them
- I keep saying I’ll just start over, but the whole stretch where things fell apart is still bleeding into right now
Practices that may help
- Recognize and recover from stage regression
A team that was Performing can drop back to Storming — and the recovery move is different from the original ascent.
Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development - Storming: name the conflict without taking sides
Surface the tension that’s already there rather than managing it away.
Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development - Diagnose which stage your team is in
Name the stage you’re in before you pick a leadership response.
Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development - Problem-solve together once the child is calm
After the emotional storm passes, invite the child to find a solution with you.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Name the "before" and create a deliberate "after"
Give the period before the setback a name and declare a clean break — the act of naming creates the separation.
Fresh Start Framing: Engineering Your Own Clean Slate - Self-soothe and signal when stonewalling
If you are flooded, take a real break and signal it clearly -- then return.
The Four Horsemen: Gottman's Warning Signs of Relationship Breakdown - Maintain an unsolved problems list
Write down recurring triggers so they become solvable problems rather than repeated emergencies.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Use a fresh start whenever you fall off
When the system breaks down, restart with today’s three outcomes — no guilt or elaborate reset required.
Getting Results the Agile Way (AGS), Made Practical - Build resources proactively during good periods as inoculation
Resilience is built before stress arrives, not during it — the preparation window is the good periods.
Conservation of Resources Theory, Made Practical - Soothe physiological flooding before attempting repair
Repair requires a nervous system that can receive it -- self-soothe before re-engaging.
Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships
Related concerns
- Flow Triggers During Conflict
Steven Kotler popularized the idea of "flow triggers" — conditions that reliably bias the brain toward flow, the absorbed state of effortless concentration first studied by Csikszentmihalyi. The core conditions (clear goals, immediate feedback, a challenge-skill balance) are well supported; the longer trigger lists and neurochemical claims are more speculative and should be read with care.
- Forming Storming Norming Performing
Bruce Tuckman’s model describes four stages every team moves through — Forming, Storming, Norming, and Performing — before optionally Adjourning. The stages are a useful diagnostic map for leaders: friction in a new team is usually normal Storming, not a personnel problem.
- Leave Before Flooding
Establish a felt sense of inner support before approaching any activating material.
Build a containment or resource before approaching freeze
- Norming Stage Team
What the team has figured out informally needs to become explicit so it survives personnel changes.
Norming: codify agreements in writing
- Storming Norming
Surface the tension that’s already there rather than managing it away.
Storming: name the conflict without taking sides
- Storming Stage Leadership
Name the stage you’re in before you pick a leadership response.
Diagnose which stage your team is in
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