Coaching practices for The Charisma Myth as a Caregiver

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• I’ve read all the tips about eye contact and posture, but the harder I work to perform the right body language the more wooden I feel
• I say one slightly awkward thing and then completely unravel
• People tell me I come across as cold or standoffish when I don’t mean to at all
• When I walk into a room with people who outrank me I seem to shrink
• I care about my people so much that I’ve started absorbing their personal crises and trying to fix their lives, and I can’t tell anymore where being a supportive manager stops and me overstepping into someone I shouldn’t be begins.

Practices that may help

1. The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
   Olivia Fox Cabane’s core claim is that charisma isn’t an innate gift but a set of trainable behaviors built from three ingredients: presence (being fully here), warmth (you like and accept them), and power (you can affect the world). It’s a practitioner framework rather than a tested protocol, though its parts rhyme with research on nonverbal behavior, warmth-competence, and attention.
2. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
   Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
3. Recover gracefully from awkward moments
   How you handle a slip-up signals more about your status than the slip itself.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
4. Project warmth
   Signal that you like and accept the person — warmth is goodwill made visible.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
5. Convey power
   Signal that you have the ability to affect the world — competence, status, or capability.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
6. Know where care ends and overreach begins
   Caring personally means being available, not being a therapist — know the limit of your role.
   Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
7. Listen charismatically
   Make the other person feel they’re the only one in the room — pause before you reply.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
8. Care personally without lowering the bar
   Ruinous empathy masquerades as caring — real care means holding the standard because you want them to succeed.
   Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
9. Tend to yourself before tending to others
   Sustainable tend-and-befriend requires that the caregiver’s own basic needs are met — otherwise helping depletes rather than regulates.
   Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical
10. Ground ethics in love and compassion, not rule compliance
    Let care for others — not fear of violation — be the engine of your moral conduct.
    The Perennial Philosophy, Made Practical

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