Coaching practices for The Charisma Myth Under Stress

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• I’ve read all the tips about eye contact and posture, but the harder I work to perform the right body language the more wooden I feel
• I say one slightly awkward thing and then completely unravel
• The moment things got tense this person turned into someone else
• When I walk into a room with people who outrank me I seem to shrink
• The very thing I’m best at turns on me under pressure

Practices that may help

1. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
   Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
2. Recover gracefully from awkward moments
   How you handle a slip-up signals more about your status than the slip itself.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
3. The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
   Olivia Fox Cabane’s core claim is that charisma isn’t an innate gift but a set of trainable behaviors built from three ingredients: presence (being fully here), warmth (you like and accept them), and power (you can affect the world). It’s a practitioner framework rather than a tested protocol, though its parts rhyme with research on nonverbal behavior, warmth-competence, and attention.
4. Recognise stress-driven backup behaviour
   Under stress, everyone shifts to an exaggerated, less effective version of their dominant style.
   Social Style Matrix: Adapting to How People Communicate
5. Convey power
   Signal that you have the ability to affect the world — competence, status, or capability.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
6. Map how your strengths distort under stress
   Identify the "overuse" and "underuse" of each signature strength — how they show up when you’re at your worst.
   VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
7. Build a credibility foundation before showing vulnerability
   The pratfall effect only works if people already perceive you as competent — so earn that first.
   The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
8. Reappraise anxiety as excitement before high-stakes performance
   Tell yourself "I’m excited" rather than "I’m nervous" — the physiology is the same, the performance effect is not.
   Choking Under Pressure, Made Practical
9. Reappraise physiological arousal as activation, not anxiety
   Tell yourself "I’m excited" rather than "I’m nervous" — the physiology is identical; the label changes performance.
   The Clutch State: Performing Under Pressure
10. Build clutch confidence through deliberate preparation, not self-belief
    Confidence under pressure is earned by doing the preparation work, not by convincing yourself you can do it.
    The Clutch State: Performing Under Pressure

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