Coaching practices for The Coaching Habit Seven Questions to Be More Coach Like During Conflict

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• The conversation keeps circling the same complaint without ever landing anywhere, and it slowly dawns on me that the person venting to me has never once said what they actually want to come out of this
• My conversations just sort of trail off when the time runs out, and people leave with a polite thanks
• I think I’m asking questions, but they’re really suggestions in disguise
• We spend the whole conversation working on the problem they walked in with, and I keep sensing the thing that’s really got them stuck
• When I replay my coaching conversations I’m talking way more than the other person

Practices that may help

1. The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
   Michael Bungay Stanier’s seven questions — from "What’s on your mind?" through "What was most useful for you?" — are a practical system for coaching conversations that takes less than a minute to learn and a career to master. The framework is practitioner-derived from behavioral coaching practice; its mechanisms are grounded in autonomy support, self-determination, and the generation effect. The questions work because they shift the cognitive labor back to the person who owns the problem.
2. Ask "What do you want?"
   People often know what they want but haven’t said it — asking directly surfaces it and shifts from complaint to intention.
   The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
3. Close with "What was most useful for you?"
   The closing question turns the conversation into a learning that sticks — and teaches you what is actually valuable.
   The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
4. Powerful open questions at every stage
   Ask questions that invite thinking, not ones that suggest answers — and ask more than you tell.
   The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
5. Ask "What’s the real challenge here for you?"
   The presenting problem is rarely the actual problem — this question cuts through to what really matters.
   The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
6. Maintain a high question-to-statement ratio throughout GROW
   Ask questions far more often than you offer statements — the coachee’s thinking is the product.
   The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
7. Ask "If you’re saying yes to this, what are you saying no to?"
   Every yes is a yes-at-the-expense-of-something — making the trade-off explicit is the most useful thing a coach can do.
   The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
8. Open with "What’s on your mind?"
   The best opening question is also the most open — it invites exactly what the person most needs to talk about.
   The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
9. Ask "And what else?"
   The first answer is rarely the most important one — "And what else?" pulls out the one that actually matters.
   The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
10. Replace performance review conversations with feedforward conversations
    In coaching conversations, ask "what could you do differently?" instead of "what went wrong?"
    Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior

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